Hi Sassba,

First of all I can definitely relate to the slight panic about the time left, being around the same age. However there are many stories about people falling pregnant in their middle to late 40s, so don't panic too much!

Second it's rather scary that you had to have a cat scan - hope everything is ok.

I wish people would realise how irritating it is to say to people who are long term ttc 'just relax'. Yes there are people that have forgotten about everything, gone away and fallen pregnant. But most of us who are long term will need assistance, and comments like this are not helpful.

Talking to a counsellor is a very good idea - my DH and I have one that is outside the fertility industry which we find a good balance. Most clinics have a fertility counsellor and most are quite good to talk to.

I think the major difference between a gynae and a FS is that the FS can recommend more specialised help such as IUI and IVF. And he/she is used to working with people that are having difficulties concieving, so can suggest more alternatives.

You don't come across as sooky at all! And this site is brilliant for asking questions and getting support. Good luck with your fertility journey!!