Emmy - you could always get a referal from your GP and see an FS just to sound out what their opinion is - without feeling like you need to do anything. My DH and I waited about 3 months from finding our from my Gyno that we needed to do IVF, before seeing the FS. After seeing the FS initaly, we waited another 6 months before going back to the FS to commence IVF - it then took us another 4 months to get started on our first cycle. Our FS was wonderful in terms of not pushing us to make decisions and was always available via phone if we had questions...sometimes it is just nice to know where things are at and what the options are. However, as Smithy says, lets hope you dont need the referal or the FS!
Good luck.
FG