Kim.b. & sonya1 - would love to keep in touch - it really helps to know that you're not alone and to have someone you can ask anything...
Sonya1 - don't worry - you're not on your own. Although I know how you feel, I'm nervous too. I'm trying not to think about the whole thing until I have to.
I dont post in the forums very often, just mainly lurk
Anyway, DH and I are just in the middle of our first IVF Cycle and have been on Gonal F injections for 10 days, We went for a scan today and we have 6 follicles so far, I know they say there can be too many or not enough, but what is the average, does anyone know
I am relatively new to the forum, but couldn't agree more with Farm Gal - don't let the bastards get you down.
I am currently in my 2WW, after my second cycle with ICSI. The first cycle was a bit of a learning for us, because we established (after a very successful egg retrieval) that there was a problem with DH sperm which prevented anything from fertilising. The odds of this happening was about 5%. Which was bad luck from us. But otherwise we had a really great cycle, and I dare say we would have had an equally good shot at pregnancy had something actually fertilised. My sister fell pregnant first time with ICSI, so it does happen!!
What I find infuriating most of all, is that it's hard enough to deal with our own doubts, with our own "what if's" etc, that we certainly don't need the so-called professionals doing the same. Obviously the success rates aren't 100%, but surely there is a way of communicating this keeping our very fragile emotions in mind. Who are these people??
Anyway, after I found at initially I was infertile, I picked up this great book about coping with infertility (let me know if you want the details). Anyway, they make this really great point about one of the issues about infertility is this sense of a "lack of control": that your fertility is in the hands of the health care professionals. But it goes on to say that you should take back control wherever you can. This might mean choosing your health care provider - someone that you feel most comfortable with, being assertive, asking for privacy when you are dressing or undressing during medical exams, asking questions etc etc. It also means, speaking up when staff make inappropriate comments as in your case. I would have no problem being vocal enough to request that she refrain from comments like this, because it really is a hard enough experience without the negativity. It really has helped me take back control, and really stay sane throughout the IVF/ICSI process.
Good luck with everything, and keep your spirits up!!
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