Laparoscopy to remove tube and IVF

[Elocin]

After seeing my new FS this morning, this looks like my new path...

I had undiagnosed Chlamydia for I don't even know how long, and this has caused scar tissue in my right tube, as well as calcification on my ovaries.

I don't know where to start looking for info!! DH still isn't sold on the whole IVF thing, but I'm working on it.

I can't believe I'm here... my head is spinning...

Please reassure me that this is ok... that I can do this...

[Olive]

darl, no advise just some support in the form of a hug

[MummaSue]

It's a tough spot to be in. I have blocked and damaged tubes due to severe endo so IVF was really our only route. It took us 2 years from diagnosis before we could get into the right head space to even consider IVF. But we're so glad we did in the end.

Be kind to DH if he seems resistant at first, it's a huge step. We weren't keen but when we realised it would be our only option, we spent loads of time talking about it. And to be honest, our LTTTC journey has made our marriage stronger.

Sorry, that was a bit of a ramble.

Huge hugs


Sue x

[glenny_c]

This is Ok- You CAN do this!!!
As MummaSue said- take your time to make sure you are in the right mind space for this but for my 2 cents worth- it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and soooooo worth it. I had IVF for the same reason as Mumma Sue and don't regret it for a second!!

[luna moth]

Wow. That's huge. You can do it, of course you can do it, but you've probably got some processing to do first.

You guys will work it out.

[Eenee]

Just wanted to come and give you a big

And yes you can do this, you are one of the strongest people I know! xx

[CharlieBrownGirl]

Always by your side Nic, no matter what.
Be kind to yourself, process and the outcome will be worth it and all your dreams come true.
Enjoy your night with B
Xx

[snikkers1]

You will get through this Nic, you are strong and I know that you will get through it. I hope you enjoy your night! Give yourself and DH some time to process allthe information and I'm sure you will work it out together.

[thepixie]

Sorry to hear this Nic Hope DH comes around for you and you can find a way forward to having your baby x

[onthefly]

Oh that's rough
It's a shock now, but I hope in time you can your DH can figure out a plan. As bad as it looks now, this is a step forward.
All the best

[nic]

Did you FS give you any info to read over? Right now your head is spinning with this news. Give it some time to settle a bit, then have a talk and go from there. It's ok to feel like this, and you will get there
For what it's worth, I was another who was a deer in the headlights when we got the "IVF" news. I didn't want to go that way, and even the day i picked up my drugs, I was still not wanting to do it. Had I not, I wouldn't have a 2 year old DS, and we think the pre-IVF treatment my FS had me on, helped with my endo enough for us to conceive #3 by ourselves!
If you FS hasn't given you anything, could you contact their office and ask for some reading material to be sent or maybe they can suggest something to read? What about another appointment when the shock has settled down, then you can ask all the questions you both have? Might help to make things a little bit clearer?
Lotsa hugs

[Footsteps]

Oh huni. Iam so sorry you are going through this. I was told about 18 months ago my tubes are damaged and I need IVF to conceive and I was told 4 years ago my womb and bowel are stuck together from scarred tissue from surgery as a baby and a adult. It's are hard journey to take but remember people are here who care and know how your feeling. Take time to digest what you have been told and Im here if you want to talk. Massive hugs huni xxxx

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[Eng]

Nic if anyone can do this, its you! You are an amazing person.. Just take some time to get the answers you need. You and DH will work out what works for you...

Sounds like you have a really good FS this time around and they seem to be really informed.. Its so nice to hear you gettting some right/productive information. Also that this FS has given you real direction and real answers..

[Elocin]

Thanks so much for your kind words!

Nic, oh do I have some reading material? The FS gave me my own folder to take all the print outs home

Plenty of reading to do over the next few days.

It's not so much the information I need to take it, just the fact I am here... it just wasn't supposed to be like this.

I'm trying to stay positive, but I barely slept last night thinking about it all.



Thanks again girls, I'm definitely feeling the love xo

[Lenny]

it just wasn't supposed to be like this.

I felt that too. It takes time to get your mind around the new reality. And then you eventually get to a point where you say ok, this is my new path, and you can jump right in fully prepared for what comes next.
It kinda sucks a bit though, when you never thought about having to deal with IVF.

Ask lots from those who have gone through it and debrief when you need to.

[MummaSue]

it just wasn't supposed to be like this.

Yeah, I can totally relate to that feeling too. I remember coming round in recovery from my diagnostic laparoscopy with a stupid registrar standing over me telling me that I'd never be able to conceive naturally and that IVF would be our only option and then she just walked away! Leaving a poor recovery nurse to deal with a hysterical and woozy patient!

I felt like someone had died.

It's good to know what your options are now so that you can formulate a plan. Once I got over the initial grief, I was able to focus and decide what we needed to do.

You'll get there hun.

[luna moth]

... it just wasn't supposed to be like this.

No, it definitely wasn't. I definitely wish it wasn't like this.

[Elocin]

No, it definitely wasn't. I definitely wish it wasn't like this.

You're going to make me cry in a minute...

It wasn't supposed to be like this... but it is.

Sue, that's exactly how I feel... like someone has died. My ability to conceive naturally... has died.

Grief... funny, until I read your post, I never thought about it like that, but it is...

Alright, tears have started and I'm at work... must stop reading

Love you all