It's a tough spot to be in. I have blocked and damaged tubes due to severe endo so IVF was really our only route. It took us 2 years from diagnosis before we could get into the right head space to even consider IVF. But we're so glad we did in the end.
Be kind to DH if he seems resistant at first, it's a huge step. We weren't keen but when we realised it would be our only option, we spent loads of time talking about it. And to be honest, our LTTTC journey has made our marriage stronger.
This is Ok- You CAN do this!!!
As MummaSue said- take your time to make sure you are in the right mind space for this but for my 2 cents worth- it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and soooooo worth it. I had IVF for the same reason as Mumma Sue and don't regret it for a second!!
Just wanted to give a hug. I know how hard it is if IVF is your only options. This is the same for us.
It is always such a shock to get bad news and I know that it always takes me some time to process.
Be kind to yourself and give yourself and DH some time.
All the best xx
Always by your side Nic, no matter what.
Be kind to yourself, process and the outcome will be worth it and all your dreams come true.
Enjoy your night with B
Xx
You will get through this Nic, you are strong and I know that you will get through it. I hope you enjoy your night! Give yourself and DH some time to process allthe information and I'm sure you will work it out together.
Oh that's rough
It's a shock now, but I hope in time you can your DH can figure out a plan. As bad as it looks now, this is a step forward.
All the best
Did you FS give you any info to read over? Right now your head is spinning with this news. Give it some time to settle a bit, then have a talk and go from there. It's ok to feel like this, and you will get there
For what it's worth, I was another who was a deer in the headlights when we got the "IVF" news. I didn't want to go that way, and even the day i picked up my drugs, I was still not wanting to do it. Had I not, I wouldn't have a 2 year old DS, and we think the pre-IVF treatment my FS had me on, helped with my endo enough for us to conceive #3 by ourselves!
If you FS hasn't given you anything, could you contact their office and ask for some reading material to be sent or maybe they can suggest something to read? What about another appointment when the shock has settled down, then you can ask all the questions you both have? Might help to make things a little bit clearer?
Lotsa hugs
Oh Nic! .....
you are one of the strongest women i know, and i know you both can do this once you process it all... I'm sorry it's taken till now to finally find out, but this can be your new start, on the right path, to fulfilling your dream.
xx
Oh huni. Iam so sorry you are going through this. I was told about 18 months ago my tubes are damaged and I need IVF to conceive and I was told 4 years ago my womb and bowel are stuck together from scarred tissue from surgery as a baby and a adult. It's are hard journey to take but remember people are here who care and know how your feeling. Take time to digest what you have been told and Im here if you want to talk. Massive hugs huni xxxx
Nic if anyone can do this, its you! You are an amazing person.. Just take some time to get the answers you need. You and DH will work out what works for you...
Sounds like you have a really good FS this time around and they seem to be really informed.. Its so nice to hear you gettting some right/productive information. Also that this FS has given you real direction and real answers..
Reply With Quotedarl, no advise just some support in the form of a hug
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Laparoscopy to remove tube and IVF
what unexpected news
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