Ellie - Just wanted to send huge hugs your way.. im at a loss at what to say but my thoughts and prayers are with your and your DH,

And yes Rols you rock... and look i have heard of situations where people make up fake personas etc and then post on forums... are you a woman? Whatever is in the water your drinking send some up north for my DH! You just seem to know the right thing to say.. its a lovely life skill.