Emma, while we have some friends who road the IF roller coaster, one of them conceived quickly on clomid and the one who did IVF never wanted to talk about it (it was like she wanted to forget it). I have always relied on my online friends for support and would never have stayed sane through all the treatments without that support. At it's best, it's a lonely road to walk; at it's worst, it will break you.

N2L, well said, as always.

Mel, sounds like your mum and mine would get along. My mum opted for, "That's too clinical. You should just keep trying naturally. It should be about love." Then she got her nose out of joint when I didn't include her in the process. Funny that...

kbudgie, those milestone never pass us by un-noticed and it's hard because no-one else knows about them or remembers them to know we're hurting. They can make us feel so alone.

Seems like today we need hugs all round, so here we go:

Afm, trying to organise a cake for DD's birthday. As usual, DH doesn't want to do anything to celebrate, but her 1st birthday party was cancelled (I couldn't cope with organising so soon after the d&c) and now that I know we may never get another chance at this, I can't let the 2nd slip by un-celebrated as well. I'm spending half the time dreaming up the perfect cake and the other half crying because I don't want her to grow up alone. Can we say "basket case"?