myturn, that makes sense. I couldn't have done this when TTC#1. That was years of the obsessive 100% investment. I just can't go through that again though and I can't risk losing years doing that and missing out on DD in the process; I've already missed too much in the 12 months that I struggled after the d&c. The guilt and regret, on top of the disappointment, is too much.

Oh, and, while we'd be thrilled with a healthy baby of either gender, we definitely want another girl. Nothing wrong with having a preference.