Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception - May 2007 #2

[briggsy's girl]

HI Karena

every DP is different in what they will discuss and who they'll discuss it with. My DH is mostly pretty reserved unless he's in a convo with me, and then he'll put his two cents worth in - but tonght he came home from the pub and told me that a mutual friend (who's daughter went through IVF a few years back) asked how things were going and so he gave him some generic info (which surprised me - he usually just goes "yeah, we're getting there") - neither one of us really lets people know where we're at, but some people know we're cycling and we're both ok with that. DH has just told his boss we're "going through ivf stuff" so that if he says he can't work, he's not asked why. i've done much the same with my bosses at work - they asked today how the whole ivf thing was going, so i just said i was feeling like a bit of a science experiment cos nothing seems to be going right - and that i'm now so used to the injections that they really are just a non-event - turns out my direct manager and his one-up are both chicken-s**t scared of needles and freaked out! hehehe, will teach them to ask me questions on the spot!

as for whether to share - i honestly believe it helps to have at least one close real life person that has a bit of an idea where you're at (not just us bb girls!) - not specifics (or they ask questions about whether you've found things out or whatever) - but just so if something gets you down, you've got someone to go and have a cuppa and a cry with - mine is my SIL and i'd be lost without her (even when she lived on the other side of the country - if i was having a bad day, i'd ring, we'd both make a cuppa and sit there having a chin wag!). hubbies are very different and don't like to share as much - i think their hurt manifests more as humiliation and disappointment and they don't want their mates to know that things aren't working - guess it's a pride thing!

please don't think i'm saying it won't work though hun! just expressing the way DH's attitude comes across. fingers crossed that things go brilliantly for you - i'm on day 3 of needles so i'll be a few days ahead of you hun - we won't exactly be cycle buddies, but i can lead the charge for us if you want!!!

must away - having typed this i realised it's time to go introduce some more synthetic hormones into my belly - good luck hun