Thanks for the advice ladies. You all said what I was thinking. A friend advise me to just do it without telling him which sat badly for me. The reason he is saying to delay is coz I have just been offered a promotion. He has just started a new job too, which he already hates. We have the mobey saved for two FET cycles. But I think he wants to spend it on rubbish. We already delayed ttc for my career for two years, add on the two plus years of ttc...I don't want to keep putting off a family for work. At least he has given up smoking, a month with no cigarettes! I'll try talking to him again today. Wish me luck.