I hate the pity too Emma. I hate the asking how things are going too. They ask in such a way that its got a double meaning. I wish people would just ask if I want them to ask me stuff or want to talk about it - that shows they really care about my headspace rather than being curious about my journey for themselves.
I text my mum yesterday to cancel dinner last night. Then she called me last night and asked me what's wrong. I was silent and then said I didn't want to talk about it so she said "bad news?" I forcefully said "yes mum that's why I text you" and she just said "oh okay okay. See you tomorrow." And hung up. Not even a "so sorry". Hmpf. I know she doesn't know how to respond and I know she doesn't know how I will react and she is sad too. But the over interest and then lack if involvement at the crunch time sucks.
I guess I'm lucky most of my pregnant friends I don't see often and only have to deal with Facebook updates. Those that do know are usually pretty understanding. But mostly I do suck it up and put on a brave face. I want to skip Christmas this year. It will be the first time I see my sister in law looking pregnant. She was due a month before me.




TTC sucks 


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