Oh sorry Mel, i missed your post.. don't take any notice of these morons... they haven't experienced the hardship you have and therefore have NFI of your emotions and mental state, let along your longing for you and DF to be parents. Who cares if you are not married? I am sure your child will be very much surrended by love and affection by you and your partner when it comes into this world, and this can be given whether you are married or not, so i don't see why your friend has such an issue about it.. they need to get a life.!!! Love and Hugs Leis xxx