Hey Kittykat,

Re the BDing, I guess it's tricky when you're IUIing with your partner's sperm. In our case we used a donor. Never the less, we BDd every second day from day 14 through to the day of the IUI (Day 19) even though DH's sample quality is shockingly poor. We just needed to feel like we'd covered all bases.

For you guys, lets say IUI takes place on Day 16 - kick off on day 12, go again Day 14, produce a sample for IUI day 16, and BD one more time on day 18. You do this because the guys live for 48 hours. However, the egg is only live for 12 hours. You can't know exactly when that is, so as long as you've got some guys in there for the 4-day most fertile period, all your bases will be covered.

To help know when you ovulated, monitor day of AF start carefully. If AF starts full flow before midday, that's day one. If it's after midday, the next day is day one. Count back 14 days from Day 1 - that will have been ovulation day. You can cross check even further by monitoring muscus. That day it's nice and clear and stretchy, that's ovulation day.

Of course, if you have other influencing factors like PCOS or endometriosis, things might not be as easy to monitor as this. Some people have 40 day cycles, which make things very tricky. But this is a good place to start.

:-)
OP.