saffy, sorry to hear the transfer was less than comfortable for you. i can sympathise - at my last transfer the FS on duty (it was a weekend), went through 3 different sized/shaped speculums before he found one that 'fit'. it was embarrassing, not to mention uncomfortable. he even tried a children's one... like having 1 put in there is not humiliating and awkward enough! as for the positive thoughts - i will not say it just takes one, but the second time i got pregnant i was in a less than positive mindframe. i had just had my first miscarriage the month before and had no hope for the FET at all. no symptoms during the TWW either, and that FET resulted in a pregnancy. unfortunately lost at 7 weeks, but a pregnancy. so i guess if you are feeling negative, dont worry about it. you feel what you feel. and to be honest i believe feeling negative or positive does not affect the result in any way. yes, we would all love to be positive and happy with each cycle/FET - but thats just not realistic.

and as per usual, chocolate always helps. : )