LT TTC after Miscarriage or Loss #4

Oh Ferrals - that is really bad luck. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I am sure darling bubs will be ok though.

Sunbeam - Good luck with the EPU

Crafty - Did you take anyone up on the offer of counselling after your consultation with the specialist? I don't think seeing a counsellor means having to say goodbye to your plans to have another baby. It would be great to see you pregnant again soon but in the meantime I worry that the added stress of moving house has made things harder for you. I haven't given up on the idea of having just one more but I am looking into counselling at the moment so that I can cope better with whatever life has planned for me.

Speaking of stress, I mentioned my brother and sister in law a couple of days ago and how, after failed IVF, they are going to adopt from Africa. Well MIL rang this morning with the news that BIL has cancer. That in itself is devastating but I fear it also means the end of their dreams to adopt. They are such lovely people, it's hard to believe such bad things keep happening to them.

Ferrals I am so sorry they messed up good and proper but on the bright side the scan and skin fold results were good so hang on in there not much longer until 16wks ! I am sure you will be fine this little bub is going to be good and strong like his mum or her mum which ever it might be,

Sammy p I didn't take the offer of counselling up as I will cope in my own way just find it so hard at this age not knowing ! was so worried I wasn't even getting a LH surge but seems I was wrong again !!!!

Sunbeam congrats and FX for a good old basket full of eggs on friday !

AFM well good news my opk was a good line today the same colour as the control line so I am guessing I am a go for ovulation in the next 24hrs or so, feel so much better seeing those two lines , DTD last night and will do again tomorow or maybe sneak one in later if DH is up for it IYKWIM lol poor love his man cold is on the mend so FX he is standing to attention later on !!!!

Speak to you all later ! waiting to see two lines on a test in about 14 days now FX ! will be just after you T-hopes !

thanks Crafty!! I sure hope so!! Fingers always crossed but not legs!! ;) And yay for the OPK! you go girlfriend :dance:

ferrals - oh thats f*cking terrible!!! Im so sorry this happening! praying that bubs is strong and healthy, so sorry that you still have to wait b4 you can fully enjoy this pregnancy, thinking of you :( xx

sunbeam!! Yay for EPU!!! wHOOP WHOOP!!! Good things are coming!!!

sammyp - oh love, such sad news for you and your family about your BIL... have they caught it early? hope he has a wonderful medical team around him that can work miracles xx

alice - hope your fighting off that cold! Im coming down with a dry chesty cough thing myself! they always come at the worst times!!! god idea to get your bits tidy b4 your epu! I forgot to book in and then they were booked out so had to go with a big mufasa!!! EIK!! :shakehead: (well not really that bad but bad for me! Im an every 5 weeker!)

AFM- All good here, just patiently waiting, im on a weeks hols at the moment so just been pottering around and doing what ever i please! 2DPIUI today.. hurry up!!

xx

Hi,

Glad I'm not the only one who is obsessed with my tidy-bits. Do the whole feet, legs etc thing before a ET.

Sunbeam - Good Luck, hope it goes smoothly.

Ferrals4 - That is a bummer. Keep your spirits up and hope for the best.

Thanks for the welcome Alice, and hope you enjoyed the sleep in. Don't right off your dream too quickly, funny things happen.

Hi CraftyMummy. Hope you're feeling better and you get your surge :)

SammyP - Those bills are a killer. I went nuts in a Medicare today then the lady made a comment about getting quite alot back.... not sure what she was thinking. I am clearly hormonal.

Sorry to hear about your lack of symptoms Saffy. Me too I'm afraid, although I did have heartburn a couple of days ago. Still hoping though, otherwise I'd go nuts. Even scarier as we've decided that after our 6 snowbubs, we're done. It seems so final, that it sends me into a pannic. Hugs and wishes for you.

Possum Magic - 2yrs are such hard work. Try and get whatever rest you can. I have a sleep and a pessarie when DS goes down at lunch. Stuff the housework.

T-hopes that's fantastic news. You have to be happy with a chance like that.

AFM - other than a bit of heartburn, nothing really to report. You can imagine alot of things when you try, but I'm not sure anything else is legit. If anyone new the no of times I'd checked my breasts, they'd worry.

Hi everyone,

Just a quick one tonight 'cause I'm really tired and got to get up early for the tests tomorrow (forgot to book the us, hope they can fit me in!) and still feeling crap. I think a day on the couch is in order.

HappyBaby, how did your FS appointment go today? Do you have a date for your D&C? Thinking of you :hug: x

Ferrals, Oh for ****s sake, that's just **** :comfort: I'm so sorry you have to wait another two agonising weeks to get your results. :(

Sunbeam, woohoo!!! That's great news and hoping you get lots of awesome eggs and the fertilisation goes well and you have a beauty to transfer next week. Congratulations!!

Saffy, Intheslowland - :pray: you are both being sneaky on us. :stickyvibesboy: :stickyvibesgirl:

Crafty, go the 'o'! That's great you got a good strong line to work with this time. :pink-babydust:

SammyP, that's just so unfair and awful what your BIL and SIL are going through. Feel so sad for them :(

Hi Porsche, Mildez

Morning ladies,

Alice it's actually 3 weeks i have to wait we are not doing another cvs just early morph scan.

When the geneticist rang i actually laughed when he told me i said surely you are joking two people cant have that much bad luck.
He wanted me to go to RNSH and have another cvs today i said what for they could f#ck the whole thing up again it's to late for a normal termination so no i wont be having anymore invasive testing until there is a sign on u/s of a problem.

I am scared and disapointed we still cant get excited or buy anything we are just in limbo and i am missing out on my pregnancy by the time we know if everything is ok i will be halfway.
I really wanted to avoid what we went through with Abbi now we are going through the same thing.

But DH and i agreed either way this bub will now be born either at 19 weeks or full term and will be part of our family and we have to get through it together( i love my man so much).

Crafty-woohoo on the OPK have fun BDing.

Sunbeam-not long now hoping for lots of good eggs for you.

Morning ladies :)

In the slowlane- :rofl: You can NOT have felt your boobs more than me in the last week! I seriously am sick of myself doing it, have sore nipples now but I'm sure they are bruised rather than anything else. Thank god I was busy at work last night I didn't have a chance to feel myself up lol.

Ferals- sorry there is yet more stuffing around and waiting, I wish you and your DH could just enjoy this pregnancy, its not fair :hug:

Alice- if you had the cold I had a while ago I recomend rest as much as possible and i feel sorry for you it is hell. :crossfingers: all the tests go beautifully and you get home on the couch soon xx

THopes thats good you have a week off, are you excitied for the grand final? Can't believe you are only 2 days into your tww, feels like longer, hope it goes quick!

Crafty- sorry you have been feeling depressed, ferals said it best when she gave you a pep talk so I will just second her thoughts. :dance: for positive OPK tho, have faith in your body!

SammyP- your poor BIL and SIL, thats just cruel and they just spent so much money on IVF I can't believe the cost! Is the adoption process definately all off? How devastating.

Hi Matthewsmum, Happybaby, Porsche, Mildez

AFM- off to the hairdressers ( I was feeling so sh*t about myself last week I booked in a lot of pampering) this morning then will spend the day trying not to moniter every twing in my body for symptoms of pregnancy- wish me luck!!

saffy - so still no AF after that spotting?????????!!!!!!!!! Test test!

i tested Monday- bfn, but my boobs are completely soft and with my 2 pregnancies I had serously rock hard massive boobs before my af was due so i amthinking if the hormone levels were high enough for a bfp I would have big boobs surely? If I ovulated when I think I did ( 4 days after stopping meds ) then I would be due for af tomorrow.
i am not a poas addict as I can't stand the disappointment, so will do another over the weekend if still no af.
Don't worry Thopes, I am going insane about it!

oooh the suspense is killing me too!! Remember every pregnancy is different...! Im a self confessed POAS Addict! I bought a 40pack on ebay! hehehhe!

Hi Ladies

Sorry girls I didn't word that post correctly. No I haven't had a M/C as yet. I was talking about my last pregnancy. All is going well here so far. I have M/S. The up chucking and dry retching plus all day nausea so all that is a good sign so far. We are 8 weeks 2 days today and still another week until our next OB appontment which will be the testing scan for me as we were 10 weeks 3 days when we found out about the missed miscarriage. We will be 9 weeks 6 days then and I will have my eyes glued to the screen for signs of life.


Ferrals - Oh crap what a c*ck up. How much longer is your 16 week scan?

Good Luck with the home test tomorrow Saffy. I've done so many, I now think they are jinxed.
BT in the morning, not expecting a great result. Boobs also not responding and feel fine too. :(

Ferrals, I'm so sorry you have to wait an extra three weeks. It sucks. Big time. I can understand you feeling like you've missed half your pregnancy so hope you can get through each day and try to enjoy what you know for now, which is that you have a bub inside you that is growing strong. Can't imagine what you're going through

Sunbeam! Any more news? So Friday for the EPU? So excited for you. Hope those follies are tracking well

T-hopes, doo dee doo dee doo....only two days? We're going to go crazy waiting for this time to be up. Can't believe you bought a 40 pack of tests online. I'm with Saffy, the disappointment is just too hard to deal with, so I've never done them. When are you going to start peeing on them??

Saffy and Intheslowlane, keeping my hopes up for you both. Saffy, hope you are happy with your new do - nothing like a good haircut to lift your spirits

Porsche, sorry for the panic and glad all is going well even though I'm sorry you are so sick. Have you found something - anything - that helps?

Hi Crafty, Mildez, HappyBaby, Damprye (if you are reading) and anyone else I've missed x

AFM, well I have to say ladies I'm feeling a bit chuffed with myself. Had my first scan this morning and I have broken my personal best with 8 follies - 1 x 13mm, 3 x 12mm 2 x 11mm 2 x 10mm!! My EPU probably won't be until middle of next week so that gives them time to grow some more. Nurse said today it's 1mm p/day then there is usually a bit more growth after trigger so should get some over 20mm. To be honest, all I'm hoping for is one really good one. Having frozen embies isn't going to help me much at my age so just hoping we get a good one to put back (maybe 2) then it's in the lap of the gods what happens. Feel much better since seeing the acupuncturist yesterday, still a little tired but getting early nights and taking it easy when I can. The traveling is the hardest bit but don't have to go down again now until Saturday. Bloods today were good too (for me) so today I'm letting myself feel positive. I did start having the wild thoughts of twins in the backseat as I was driving home from the appointment. Have to work hard at letting those thoughts go once they come as each day is different with IVF as we all know - you can go from positive to devastated in 24 hours so trying to be careful but it's hard not to hope!

Alice-sounds good i am keeping my eye on you and sunbeam.

Porsche-i'm sure this bub will be fine the M/S is i good sign even though i have never had it.
My scan is the 18th of october but i am thinking i might sneak off the the GP get a referral for my own piece of mind and go see the women u/s clinic in newcastle next week they are the ones i went for a 2nd opinion with Abbi and they found all the abnormalities so i will see if they can have a look at bub.

ALice :dance: great result! :dance:

Fabulous news on those little follies Alice. Sending you loads of grow follie grow vibes.

Hello ladies,

can I crash your party please? I was scanning through the posts in this thread and I think this is the right place for me, so I decided to come out of the bushes. I feel like I am more in the right "age group" here and you will understand the ticking clock worry better than the youngins in the TTC thread. I will be 43 tomorrow :-(

So I had my second miscarriage in February this year, at 11 weeks, bub died at about 8. I am currently 9 dpo, but I am not very hopeful. I had a very, very bad case of stomach flu the day after O, so I just cannot believe anything would survive :-( I have absolutely no symptoms, but I know that at 9 DPO it is too early for them anyway. However, with DD I felt pregnant since 5 DPO, so there.

ferrals - I cannot believe this. I had CVS with my daughter, so I know how excruciating the wait can be. It is even worse for you, because you have a reason to worry, mine was just due to my age. Hang on there dear, you are right not to want another invasive test if they can tell from the ultrasound. At least there is no 2 week waiting for the results after the ultrasound.

Alice looks good hon! :crossfingers::crossfingers:

SammyP - I remember you responded to my "is it worth to try after 40 and miscarriage" desperate message. I was very happy to see you pregnant soon later, so very, very sorry that you lost the bub. I am sorry to hear about your BIL too. It must be the end of bad luck for you surely? You are bound for some good news very soon, I just know it.

Crafty - I credit you for my still TTC. Many times I was ready to throw in the towel, and then I'd see your posts, and I thought, "hey, she is the same age, if she can do it, you can do it too". So here I am.

Best wishes for all you girls trying and waiting right now! I think I may stay here a while, so I am sure I will get to know you better.

Oh, perhaps you will find this funny: one of my very close friends is pregnant. I just found out two days ago. It made me happy and a bit sad, I am sure I do not have to explain the feeling to this group. My husband tries to console me, and you know how man are, they want to ACT, to fix things. So he asks "is the baby-making window still open"? We were just making a baby exactly a week before. I guess he thinks it stays open for days. I have to give a little biology lecture it seems.

Thanks everyone :) I just hope they keep growing and that my bt levels are good too. One day at a time...

Sunbeam - good luck today lovely, hoping you've got a good load of eggs to collect today and soon an embie to put back and lots to freeze. Fingers crossed for you! xx

Welcome Luna and I'm so sorry for your losses :hug: I'm glad you found our thread and I'm sure you'll find lots of love and support here, it is a great group as you'll come to know. Fingers crossed for this month and if not this one then hopefully next month. We have to believe that patience pays off or she who dares wins, that's what keeps us all going.

Oh and Saffy and Intheslowlane - good luck for your testing today! Fingers crossed!!

AFM, got up early this morning and went for a walk. I'm hoping some exercise will help me with my hormone levels. Was a nice way to start the day anyway, the trees are all blooming and the morning air is just starting to warm up. End of the week - yah! x

PS where do we look for Dory's birth announcement? So excited for her - she went in yesterday so hopefully we'll hear soon!