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thread: LT TTC after Miscarriage or Loss #6

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    LT TTC after Miscarriage or Loss #6

    Welcome to the new chat thread from those members who are Long-Term TTC after miscarriage or loss.

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    sunbeam - sending lots of sticky, baby, positive vibes your way! good luck tomorrow

    AFM - I had another loss I didn't post about, everyone was going through so much and I didn't want to bring everyone down more. My best friend had her baby today, I'm happy for her but I can't help being a little sad. The trying without trying is killing me!

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    Sunbeam- best of luck darling for tomorrow, I can't believe you will have 10 blasties, or nearly 10- thats fantastic, and I think you should put two in as well. Porno boobs here we come woohoo!!

    Toomanyshoes-honey- I am soo sorry, that must be hard, of course you are happy for your friend but there is always that feeling that it should be you holding the baby, I hope your wish comes true soon sweetie xx

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    Apr 2009
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    Sunbeam-good luck for today may the 2 little embies TF stick and grow nice and strong you deserve a double blessing after what you have been through.
    Oh! and my 2nd cycle i was in a lot more pain than the 1st cycle and my E2 was lower also but the nurse said it's from the extra fluid build up that causes it and that is from stimming so i guess it is a little like overstimming but not as bad until the fluid goes we are just more uncomfortable.
    Cant wait to see how you went.

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    Hey Lovlies,

    Well I PUPO with 2 little embies. It all went perfectly. FS put the 2 in but asked me to only get pg with one, I guess he's had some bad expereinces trying to get ladies through twin pregnancies. DD is also a bit scared about the idea of twins, bless him! Not sure I'm going to know so easily if I'm pg this time as I've been feeling neauseous and had big sore bbs from the crinone already. Anyway hope to have a porno boob update soon I'll find out tomorrow how many others made it to freeze.

    TMS - Big hugs babe. I always find it easier once my friends babies are here it's their pg that I stuggle with. Thinking of you.

    Hey Ferrals and Saffy and everyone else. Have a good weekend.

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    Sunbeam - Just checking in to see how it went. I think, the hell with it, let it be twins! Then you might not have to put yourself through this again (unless you want to). Fingers crossed for you.

    Toomanyshoes - I am so sorry for your loss. I really hope that you didn't feel you couldn't share. We all go through phases of optimism and despair and I want to share all those things with you girls, not just the good times.

    AFM - Can't get over how heavy AF is these days. I went to work yesterday and had a sudden flood as I got up from my chair and actually bled on the front of my skirt. I washed it off and told everyone I dropped chocolate in my lap as the boss had bought us some chocolates to share. How embarrassing!

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    Sunbeam- well done I hope you get twins or one baby- who cares! My Dh was desperate for us to get twins so our family was instant but he lives in lala land about the effort required, if I was younger I would never have transferred 2 but at this age it is suddenly appealing. Hope you are getting lots of rest and soooo glad everything went well. FX for a stressfree TWW- I know, as if! Hope you get lots to freeze xx

    Indiasmum-you poor thing, that is embarrassing but sounds like you covered it well. When I had implanon in I had bleeding that heavy its horrible. Hope AF is kinder to you today.

    Hi everyone else, hope you are having a nice weekend, it is pouring with rain where I am.

    AFM- off to Adelaide on Monday for some R&R, was hoping I might O when I was away but no sign yet-it would usually occur this tues/wed but due to m/c may be late I guess- typical just when i have the chance to DTD with DH when he is not tired from work. Oh well, will just have to dtd for pleasure only- unusual concept these days lol!

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    Hi Lovlies,

    Well I'm a little bit sad, only 1 embryo made it to freeze. I know they were only little embies but it still seems sad, poor little things. It also means that despite the great fertilisation and how well they did all week we ended up with exactly the same as last time! IVF messes with your head! I don't mean to seem greedy I was just hoping for a few more given this was our last ever pick up. Obviously I hope i never need more and that what we have will give us out dream bub (or bubs).

    Saffy - I hope you get a sneaky O while you are DTD for fun anyway

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    Sunbeam- I know how you feel its hard to not be disappointed. You ended up with the same amount as me- 2 transferred and 1 frozen- its not bad considering some poeple get nothing but it is hard not to wish there were a few more chances in there.

    I SOOOO hope you don't even need to worry about it in a few weeks time and that there a one or two sticky bubs for you-

    Hi everyone else- hugs all round xx

    AFM- teary and depressed for some reason today and have had some brown spotting, not even going to try to guess what is going on with my body, no ewcm yet so doubt I will O when I am away. I have been taking it out on DH so I hope I snap out of this mood by tomorrow so I don't ruin our time away

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    Sunbeam - i have everything crossed for you and your 2 embies! xx

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    Sunbeam: hope those embies snuggle in nicely and the crinone porno boobs give way to prego porno boobs!
    Saffy: Huge hugs hun... it's been a tough couple of weeks. Not surprising you'd still be feeling a little wobbly at times. (Your body may also be a little wonky still from the mc and not behaving as regularly as normal, hence the spotting). I hope you can enjoy your time away and DTD for fun even if you don't 'o'. I know it's hard.
    India's mum: Nice save with the 'chocolate on the skirt' explanation!
    Toomanyshoes: Sad to hear of another loss for you. It is always ok to share here if you feel up to it.

    AFM: Getting some EWCM. HOrmones kicking in a bit and DTD last night just because i felt like it for a change even though i know it's probably too early to catch the egg (which probably won't pop before Wednesday at earliest). I so often don't feel like it because of AF, too tired etc that I really enjoy this week which is my...ahem...'cheekiest' time of month. I thought i'd never be up for it because of gastro last week and then pulled a muscle in my back but i'm feeling better today (thank you pain killers and physio!)

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    It is very quite in here.

    I have not been writing as I've lost my zen and have convinced myself that the IVF hasn't worked and that its all been a waste of time. Can't officailly POAS till saturday probably but feeling very flat about it all. I was so upbeat and positive until the other little eggies didn't make it and for some reason that has knocked the wind out of my sails.

    Saffy - I hope you are feeling better and have a great time away

    Possum - I hope your fun DTD time does catch the eggie, come on christmas babies.

    Hugs to all of us.

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    hi to all the ladies in here.... I havent been on the forums for quite a while, but have been blogging, as an outlet.
    wishing you all well, hoping for some BFPs. Just popped by to see how you are doing.

    I am in another cycle now...hopefully egg collection next week. Feeling detached..been through a lot, so just keeping things more contained this time.

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    Apr 2009
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    Sunbeam-none of my other embies from my 2 cycles were good enough to freeze but the FS said they were still good enough to get pregnant with they need to be grade 1 perfect embies to freeze but women get pregnant from grade 3's i only had one grade one and the others grade 3 and look at me i am 23 weeks with a disco queen in my belly.
    I bet it works this time and because you weeded out the not so strong ones you got the best ones put back so dont panic.

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    Possums - Hi there. Good luck for your pick up I hope you get lots of happy ealthy eggies and we both get BFPs for Christmas.

    Ferrals - Thank you, you always know what to say to encourage me

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    Sunbeam - thinking of you and praying you get the news that you so truly deserve in the coming week xx

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    Sunbeam, I have everything crossed for you, it's so hard to stay up all the time, it's natural to swing down sometimes too, it does your head in waiting.

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    Hi girls I'm back, quiet in here isn't it?

    Sunbeam- sorry its so tough this sh*tty TWW, hope you are starting to feel a bit better. For what its worth I felt exactly the same and still got a bfp (irrespective of the outcome) so you really don't know is what I am trying to say. When is the BT? I know you are testing tomorrow- I hope so much you get a good result, don't give up yet

    Hi possums- nice to see you, have you found out about your EPU yet? Good luck for it hope it goes ahead.

    Possummagic- did you catch the eggy?? you did, glad you were back in action after gastro and a pulled muscle- I know what you mean its hard to summon up the energy to DTD these days!

    India'smum- hope your AF has well and truly left the building after giving you such a hard time!

    Hi anyone else, come and join us if you are lurking!

    AFM- well not too great to be honest. Time away was good but I lost the plot Wednesday after finding out a friend whose female partner was doing an ivf cycle the same time as me got a BFP-( its my fault for checking my emails while i was away but we had been updating each other so I couldn't just not ask her how she went.) So after a couple of glasses of wine I dissolved into a quagmire of self pity- why me, why do I always have to be happy for everyone else, why can't I ever get good news, whats wrong with me, its not fair blah blah blah ( you all know the drill). Spent the whole night crying and feeling horrible for feeling jealous.
    Now just trying to climb back from that, spoke to a counsellor that my boss referred me to ( free through work) so will see her in a few weeks, she sounded nice. Still feeling a bit blah though.
    Sorry for the sook, its a bit depressing I know.

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