LT TTC after Miscarriage or Loss #6

INDIAS mum

Thanks for your input glad I am not the only one going off the bdancing idea but it has to be done and its all a mind game I think if we relaxed more and didnt think of it too much then maybe it would be better but its so hard not to know what day of your cycle your on and how old you are getting,

I know ivf is so expensive and I went down the road of inquiry last year and was basically told at my age 45 I would be wasting my money as my eggs are 45 yrs old and thats why women our age mc so much more ! you can't make your eggs young again ! its so hard to be told that but 8 mnths down the line I do apreciate being told that as I could have wasted thousands and thousands and not really improved my chances any more than trying naturally ,

so my dear I will be here and I will be 46 in April and I am not giving up hope and neither should you keep thinking positive girl we can do it :D

Hmmmm, had a very interesting 24 hours. I don't have a regular cycle so AF can arrive any time from 27 days to 32 days. Yesterday was Day 29 so I wasn't really surprised when I had a show of blood last night. I thought it was all over again for this month but today the flow didn't really get any heavier. Just a bit of spotting but lots of AF cramps, particularly in my back. And so I decided to test when I got home and there is a very, very faint second line (but definite enough for DH to confirm he can see it too). I suspect that this is a chemical pregnancy and AF will be slow to start but definitely arrive. In the meantime, I may be pregnant for the 6th time (that really blows my mind!)

India'smum!!!!!!!

How interesting!!!!, if you just had spotting it might still take a while to get a stronger line, don't rule yourself out yet hun, I will be watching to see what happens-:goodluck::crossfingers: I HOPE so much for you it is a sticky one :stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl:

Crafty-we've been off BDing for ages, sometimes we only BD around O time * the shame* its very depressing, I hope you find your mojo and become the next BFP ( after india'smum)

Loops- Poor Dh and poor you, sounds like he will be out of action for a while, FX your Af starts soon and puts you out of your misery (or gives you a bfp instead) hugs hun x

Hi sunbeam, minniemouse, luna, hope everyone is well

afm- doing OPKs at the moment, waiting to O and should be set for an FET next week

ooohhh india's mum i'll be keeping my fingers crossed that line gets darker and you have implantation happening !

craftymummy: im also feeling the same way, even though its a clomid cycle im struggling to find the motivation to babydance, today is day 14 and we only started last night, im annoyed at myself but still can't be bothered

saffy: i hope those opt's turn positive soon, do you have scans too to see where you are at ?

matthewsmum: how soon is your fet ?

afm: as i said i haven't found my mojo yet, hope it arrives soon ! opt's still negative so hopefully will happen in the next week

hi all,india's mum-hope the line keeps getting darker,sounds very promising...minniemouse- blood tests to track 'o' start on thurs...saffy-do you to have any blood test for 'o' ?...loops12-glad dh is home,sorry about bfn...afm-had acupuncture on sat to try and help hormone levels.if i get to transfer,she wants me to have a session with her just before transfer ,then again just after transfer.

India's mum - how are you doing? Do you have any pregnancy symptoms? I am keeping my fingers crossed that it is just an unexplained harmless bleed. I had this with my daughter at 6 weeks, whooosh of painless bleeding and then nothing and everything was fine. It may be the same for you, maybe baby is burrowing in and destroyed some blood vessel.

I see there is a few of us in the same point of the cycle, waiting for O. It will be very interesting here in about 2 weeks. I think I am hatching an egg too in about 3-4 days, so I will be right there with you girls.

Well I tested again this morning and it's still the faintest the line can be while still being visible. There was more blood this morning and it was a lot darker and had tiny clots in it (sorry TMI). So I still think this is going to be a failed pregnancy. It's made me a tiny bit optimistic though because I can obviously still get pregnant and that was my big fear, that it was never going to happen again.

Hi all
Indias mum wow now I am hanging on to see how this turns out for you and obviously my fingers toes and everything is crossed and praying for a darker BFP line but as they say a line is a line !
Saffy and matthews mum very exciting to see your both nearing your trans dates ! FX for you too !
Luna hi there hope mojo turns up for you ! ha ha the shame of it all we women can't be ars*d anymore with this TTC lark do you think its we have already written the cycle off before we even started ! like a protection kind of thing ? anyhow we all have to try our hardest to bring back the spark easier said than done I know !

Well afm cycle day 30 was friday and got up to light spotting very light, thought ok this is it AF arriving ! wore a pad the next 3 days and only got sorry TMI ! dark brown almost black loss well not really a loss was just when I wiped didn't need the pad on at all, now tues is here no nothing not a dribble of anything ! so now with indiasmums story I am wondering whats going on but have no hpt in the house !

india's mum-sorry the line wasn't any darker...luna-good luck catching that egg...how is everyone else this morning?

craftymummy-everything crossed for you too

Well- for people who can't be bothered BDing there is a lot of action obviously still happening in here!! :ROFL:

Crafty- that does sound interesting, keep us posted and truck loads of :stickyvibesboy:

India'smum- sorry the line wasn't darker, I am famliar with the feeling associated with that, it is very disappointing, I will still send some :stickyvibesboy: for you and just remember stranger things have happened :goodluck:

Matthewsmum- I am doing OPKs until it becomes positive and then I go in for blood tests, luckily I O early in the piece, so am already testing as I have EWCM and am CD10 I think. My acupuncturist will want to do the same but I have to go to Melbourne for this transfer 1-2 hrs drive so don't know how 'do-able' that will be. Good luck to you, I really hope you make it to transfer, and that we get BFPs together xx

minniemouse-No i think we just do blood tests ( I think my clinic is on the slack side compared to others but its the only one where i live) I'm relying on acupuncture to get my lining up to scratch.

luna- great that you are back in the game, we'll have each other during the tww!

Loops- how is DH? Is he driving you mad yet? Mine would be lol

hi anyone else

AFM- getting back into exercise now my back feels better so went for a beautiful walk around the waterfront, its such a nice morning here. Have a nice day everyone xx

Hi Lovely Ladies
Thanks for all your messages re: DH, he is doing pretty well considering. Not driving to me too nuts Saffy LOL
Crafty, India'smum and Matthewsmum ~ FX'd for you all for BFP news very soon!
Goodluck to everyone else and hope you are all well :grouphug:

AFM ~ well you can probably see by my status that AF has still not reared her ugly head. Bloomin body, wish she'd hurry up already - I want my cycles back to normal

ooooohh crafty are you going to go get some tests, fingers crossed for you !

luna: fingers crossed we are 2 ww buddies, im hoping something will happen here in a few days, opt's still negative though

india's mum: i hope that bleeding settles and your positive line darkens

saffy and matthews mum: hopefully you guys will be cycle buddies too

loops: good to hear your hubby is improving, why is af missing do you think ? do you know when you ovulated ?

Crafty - that sounds remarkably similar to what I am experiencing. Will you buy some tests and find out?

Hello to everyone else. Sorry I am currently so self obsessed.

So, still bleeding but it's weird. Sorry in advance for TMI. This is definitely not like a period but it doesn't sound like implantation spotting either. I am only bleeding a small amount but it's very dark red in colour, thick and full of stringy bits and tiny clots. I have had none on my pad because, lets face it girls, I am not the sort to wait patiently and find out, every hour I am in the bathroom with my finger up the wazoo checking to see if I am still bleeding. There is a small amount each time I check but it's still there. It doesn't seem to be getting better or worse. I don't have any serious cramping but a slight ache. I am having a few minor pregnacy symptoms, I feel a bit queasy (very mild) and everything I eat tastes slightly off. I didn't finish lunch or dinner as they had a bitter aftertaste. And when I think about coffee my body says "NO WAY"!!!

I rang my GP to ask her and told her what was going on and also mentioned about the mid cycle bleeding I experienced this month. She thinks that might have been an implantation bleed and this is now a miscarriage. She wants me to have a blood test Thursday morning to see what is going on.

I sent DH down to get another brand of tests to see if it made a difference and it doesn't, still the faintest of lines. I just wish I knew what was going on. I hate this tiny bit of hope I have to cling too. The last pregnancy was the same. For 12 weeks we had bad news, good news, bad news, good news until the ultimate bad news. Why can't this all be a bit easier.

india's mum-hope thursday brings good news... saffy-i have to travel for my transfer as well,so acupuncturist has organised one of her collegues who has a clinic near by the hospital to do the 2 sessions on the day.Maybe your acupuncturist could recommend someone closer to where you have to have transfer...minniemouse-hope those opk's start showing 2 lines soon...loops-dh is lucky to have you to look after him...night all

India's mum - oh gosh, this must be driving you bananas. It's good that you are getting a blood test, at least it will give you a more definite answer. Fingers crossed for a good one.

Craftymummy - your body is driving you mad too I see. Did you get some HPTs?

minniemouse - hope this line darkens for you soon, so we can be TWW buddies. My test was pretty dark this morning, although I cannot quite tell if it is as dark as the control line or still lighter. But anyway, the doctor prescribed some bbding tonight, as I have a blood test and ultrasound tomorrow to check for ovulation.

Saffy and Matthew's Mum - I think you will be my TWW buddies too, do you know already when the transfer is? Sorry if it is a stupid question, I do not know much about the procedure so I do not know if you can schedule the day or have to wait for your body to sort of "schedule it" for you.

Loops - sorry to hear about your husband, but glad that he is such a good sport. I know some people that would be a total PITA in this situation...

I just realized, that for those of us that get lucky this month, the BFP could be a nice valentine's gift *hint hint*. I always thougth of Valentines day as rather contrived holiday, but if I get my BFP for it, then hey, it is going to be the holiest day of the year.

Well, the line is no darker this morning and the bleeding is heavier so I think my GP is right that this is a miscarriage.

sorry to hear that indias mum-:hug: I hope you can take something positive away from this, i know its hard xxx