hi all,loops-hope he changes his mind about the ute,if you can manage without it why not?cost of rego & insurance is a big saving in itself.hope af pain has eased,our bodies seem to like adding insult to injury,hugs.dh's just don't get it sometimes,they love us,they want us to be happier,but they just don't get it.
Thanks ladies - dont know what I'd do without you! xoxo really appreciate all the hugs - really needed them.
I left the house after work and was going to stay at my mums - couldnt take it anymore. But DH called and we did talk and I ended up going home. DH and I show our Utes - we have the full country utes that you may see on the roads with the big bullbars, aerials etc and we socialise with others at country events showing our Utes. Everyone loves my Ute (incl myself) because I have it in honour of my late sis and I promote my families charity on it - the Magdalene Foundation. DH feels that if I sell my Ute it wont be enough to pay off the loan on it anyway as well as do IVF and then if I were to sell it and keep the loan use the ute money for IVF, then if the IVF doesnt work - I'd have no baby and no ute. So I do see his point but the reason I was so upset is that he always ignores my opinions, suggestions etc - wont have a bar of them - is very stubborn and I just didnt think I could deal with that anymore. but I guess we all have our faults and in hindsight I guess he was thinking of my feelings in the matter - so have to love him for that. phewww was trying to make a long-story short.
In summary - trying to move forward, to tell DH exactly how I feel and hope he opens up too. I have looked into short-term personal loans and hava a finance person looking into different ones at the moment. Medical based loans. so other options so I dont have to sell my ute.
Loops- my DH is the same, he is very opinionated ( even if he knows nothing about the subject), its something you have to learn to live with. I;m glad you came to an understanding, money problems are very stressful and not being able to pay for ivf must be so frustrating xx
Hi Ladies
still hanging around and reading your posts but not posting much.
Great news on the trans saffy so I guess your in the TWW now I am not sure if I am or not as I didn't bother doing anymore opks as its seemed pointless I kept forgetting to withdraw from fluids for 2hrs before the test and well with the kids on 2wk holidays from school you don't get much time to yourself !
Anyhow DH was very good and made sure we got some bdancing in on days 13 15 and 17 so hopefully if I did ovulate we are in with a chance but yesterday morning I got pinkish red on my tissue after going to the loo and thought oh well AF here again after only 14 days but since then no nothing just a damn headache again I really think I am heading to the big M instead of ovulating my body is shutting down the baby making I have to deal with it at 46 I have to face facts its been 2yrs soon since my mc and nothing since so I am getting ready to give it all up and go forward into the next stage of my life !
good luck to all in the TWW saffy will be praying for your BFP as well as matthewsmum and sunbeam as I know you have been on here as long as me will keep checking on you all but not posting much sorry !
Crafty - I really hope you get one last miracle before the big M I would be so delighted for you I know how much you want it.
Saffy- How are you feeling sweetie is the TWW getting to you or are you keeping busy? Well done on managing to do a half bladder pee
Loops - I am so sorry you are struggling to agree on the best course of action with DH. Like I said before would it be worth doing IUI again or is IVF really your only option? Is there any chance DH swimmers have improved? Crafty was told that her DH's swimmers would never get her pg and he then managed 8 children and you did manage a natural pg recently so maybe its worth a try!
Age - Any news babe I hope things are going okay.
Jodan - Welcome to our little thread best of luck with your journey here.
Hi Clairesmummy and Minne I hope your little bubs are growing well.
Mathewsmum - I hope your tax return comes in soon.
AFM - Had my scan today and there is a nice fat follie ready to go and great lining so will be doing insems tomorrow, fri and sat. I know it is bad and I feel quite guilty but I keep thinking if I get pg this cycle I won't be able to drink at my 40th in a few weeks. Its so silly because I really want a bub but I just feel I have given up so much already and also I'll only be about 7 weeks so no where near feeling safe about it lasting. I guess I'm also worried that if I miscarry before my birthday I won't feel like celebrating at all, f@#ck this journey is hard!!
Sunbeam, I have been very calm so far in my tww, but today the crazy has come out and I can feel myself getting stressed, started gogling this morning Have had cramping for the last few days and very emotional ( DH came home early yesterday and caught me bawling my eyes out on the couch ) but nothing else, I still have 6 days til BT- HELP!!
Good luck for your insem, thats a tricky one about your 40th, not sure what you can do about it??
Hi everyone else!
Hi gils just a quickie. Have been looking at houses to rent for my 40th and will be having heaps of fun regardless . OPK got stronger today so should be pos tomorrow for O'ing on sat. Bring it on.
Saffy - Just breathe and step away from the computer
Thanks ladies
It is such a hard journey, that I think I just need to try and sit back and think before cracking it at DH next time. He has also been through a great ordeal with his work injury - fractured neck. We are doing heaps better, he seems to be listening and I think he understand why I was angry. He got the all clear to go back to work yesterday - so that has def cheered him up.
Crafty ~ I too will be , please please please just one more miracle for craftymummy!
Sunbeam ~ thanks for all your wonderful suggestions. I suggested IUI to DH and he said yeh that could be a good idea so I think I'll look into how much it is, yes especially since we did almost get there naturally recently. I hope you dont get to drink at your party but still have a great time!!
Loops - I really think IUI is worth a try again worked well for me and I was only out of pocket $500 each time.
AFM - Just a question if this happens to anyone else. My OPK was very pos from 9.30am yesterday and still at 2.30 but today at 12 very neg again same as last cycle. I'm not sure if maybe my surge is happening late the day before but I always used to get pos. for 2 days. Guess it does not matter so long as it happens just bit curious. Anyway, did insems thurs, yesterday and doing one today. So TWW from tomorrow. Feeling quite happy that i'll either get a BFP or I'll be able to drink at my party bit of a win/win month, nice.
Thanks Sunbeam ~ def IUI sounds like a plan!
My cycles sometimes do strange things like that - sometimes its hard to know what is happening. Our bodies or the OPK's like to keep us guessing. I think as long as you DTD as much as possible is the key goodluck hun.
FX'd for a good TWW and the best possible outcome!!
I went to visit friend in hospital and her newborn bub. Gorgeous to see - not too hard because I'm just happey to get a hold and a cuddle and live in hope that it will be me one day soon this friend knows she can have a babysitter at pretty much anytime lol
Loops- good if you can try the cheaper option!! Great news if you can do IUI. I think your DH will feel better when he goes back to work, its hard to be off work for a long time.
Sunbeam- I don't usually do OPKs once i have a positive so don't know how long they last for, but when I was having blood tests this cycle and double checking with OPKs, I had my LH surge on the Sunday ( picked up by BT at 10am) but my OPK was neg that day and didn't come up positive til the next day ( !), so that makes me think your surge was probably earlier rather than later IYKWIM. Glad you are in tww now!
craftymummy- did you see the news item about the woman who had a baby at 50? ( natural conception) I really hope you wish comes true one more time xx
Hi everyone else, I hope all the girls who are UTD are doing ok, please let us know xx
AFM- nothing happening here AT ALL, trying to remain calm and distract myself, but starting to feel it isn't going to work. I can't bear to poas, if I get to Monday without spotting I might do it then, but would be so shattered to get a one-liner it may not be worth it. No sore boobs, no cramping, no anything else, its so depressing to think about getting a BFN. Oh well, I just have to keep getting through one day at a time. Feels like the longest tww ever!!
saffy: i had no symptoms either, no cramping which i was paying close attention too, fingers crossed for you, you have reached the point where i was starting to lose the plot in my cycle..........i'll be stalking
sunbeam: sounds like things are on track for you, be stalking you too. did you find somewhere for your birthday ?
loops: hopefully you have a few options left not just IVF, hope things improve when DH is back at work
hi to everyone else
afm: going ok i hope, have my scan next week, will let you know how it goes :-)
Last edited by minniemouse; July 30th, 2011 at 06:52 PM.
Saffy: Nasty old TWW. I feel for you. I hope you get good news at the end of it. I came to the conclusion after a while that it was just impossible to predict the outcome. With this pg, i was certain AF was coming: I felt like a madly hormonal cow leading up to when AF was due. Terribly irritable etc. Didn't feel pg at all. And an early POAS was negative. But then AF didn't come and the next POAS was positive. So, you can't always tell.
Sunbeam: Good luck for your TWW!
Loops: Sounds like you've had a very stressful time of it. I hope you come up with a good plan B that works for you cost-wise and brings you the bub you dream of.
Crafty: I also read that story about a woman LTTC who got an unexpected natural BFP at 50! Extraordinary things sometimes happen...
thanks girls, I'm glad this tww will be over soon one way or another, I couldn't sleep last night worrying about everything, and had a massive cry this morning, so it is definately getting to me, haven't decided about poas, but leaning towards not doing it, esp in the light of no sore boobs, arghhhh!
At least I'm goingto work now, it will hopefully keep my mind off it,
hope everyone is enjoying their weekend- spring is in the air!
Saffy ~ thinking of you and No sore BB's could be a good thing - may mean no AF, hoping so!!
Minnie ~ all the best for your scan next week
Possum ~ thanks for your wishes and dropping in - GL over the next 28days - exciting!!
Hope everyone had a lovely weekend and enjoy the week ahead.
I am off to a work conference tomorrow over at Geelong so wont be on BB for a week - will be thinking of you all though with everything crossed!
hi matthewsmum, no I am preferring to live in blissful ignorance without poas because i will be devastated to get a bfn. 1 day til BT and no sign of spotting yet which is good for me cos usually something is happening by now, not sure if I will cave and poas tomorrow before BT.
minnie- best of luck for your scan hun, thinking of you x
best of luck with your journey here.
Have had cramping for the last few days and very emotional ( DH came home early yesterday and caught me bawling my eyes out on the couch 
for your insem, thats a tricky one about your 40th, not sure what you can do about it??
. OPK got stronger today so should be pos tomorrow for O'ing on sat. Bring it on.
, please please please just one more miracle for craftymummy! 
FX'd tight for you hun
this friend knows she can have a babysitter at pretty much anytime lol
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