That's tough hun . Do you think you feel bad because you feel that you've let your DD down by not being there for her when you had your mm/c, or that you feel guilty by not able to give her a brother or sister? Sometimes I feel so bad that I might not be able to give DS a sibling. Other times I feel like the universe is trying to punish me or something, I lost my first baby, then I lost a little one in my early m/c, I feel like maybe the universe is saying you can only handle one....the fact that there might be a big age gap between the two (big IF there with be two in the first place) is also hard. Why is so damn hard to add to our families