Ok girls need some advice. On Saturday I am booked in to a spa morning with my bestie to celebrate our birthdays. It's been booked in for months. Supposed to have a facial, body exfoliation and full body massage.
Thing is, my BT isn't til the 15th. I haven't told her about my FET as we don't want to tell anyone.
I know massage can be contra-indicated in pregnancy but from what is read its mainly due to use of essential oils and certain points in the shoulders etc.
So - should I just go ahead with it but subtlety tell the therapist that I could be pregnant? Or should I call them ahead if time and discuss it? I think I am comfortable with going ahead as long as I let them know and manage to hide it still from my bestie!!

I would go ahead with it - but I'd probably call them first and discuss... having said that, you also need to consider how you will feel if it "doesn't work" and will you blame yourself for going??? the opposite is, if you don't go and it "doesn't work" will you kick yourself for not going, and which one will you feel worse about???

I've always been pretty matter of fact with what I do - haven't blamed myself for the things I've done when it's failed (only blamed myself for my weight etc... but not the activities or food I've eaten during the tww)....

sorry to be a dampener... but.... better to think about all options and feel okay, than to go in blindly and feel miserable at the end.... IMO humbly....

totally understand you not wanting to tell the bestie! I have kept the last two a secret as well.... told no one... just too hard every time it fails.... and I want it to be a bit surprise for everyone when it does work.

anyway... sneaking back out again... I haven't got a tww this month... DH is away in texas during the crucial time...