Oh Moonflower, I am so so sorry. Nothing that anyone can say will make it any better right now but it's so important that both you and your DH grieve properly. Scream, cry, get mad, do whatever you have to do. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel or how to get through it. It's all just time honey. I have been there twice before so although we are all different, it makes me ache inside knowing what u are going through. Please don't lose hope though.....it's all we have in this insane journey that is ivf.

FGS that really sucks honey but obviously the little emby you have on board was a good one otherwise it wouldn't have made it to blasty and they wouldn't have transfered. I have just been through the same "what am I doing wrong" "why can't I make good numbers/quality" thing myself but it is all just a guessing game and there are no answers. Just keep your chin up and (I can't believe I am going to say this after the week I've had) but it only takes one! Hang in there!