A partial answer, but poor DH :(

[LizLemon]

to you and DH. It was and still is a huge blow to my DH when we got the results of his tests. For some reason men find it more as a confidence blow to have fertility problems than women do.

I don't have any advice in raising count etc I'm sorry. We tried menevit, which our FS was trialling at the time and it made zippo of difference. We also saw an andrologist who did a heap of further tests (including an Ultrasound) which showed a small varicocele (like a varicose vein around the testicle) which gave us huge hope but it turned out to be too small to treat, and unlikely to be causing the issue. In the end we did ICSI through our FS.

If you want the details of the Andrologist (I'm in Perth too) let me know.

Best of luck, these things are so so hard.

[Jennifer13]

How are you doing this morning, hun? I hope you had a chance to comfort each other as it all sinks in.

Sounds like some of the girls are giving you some great practical ideas as well.

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

He's not talking about it When the issues relate to me, he's super quick to pick on my lack of trust in doctors, but when it's his problem - and an easily fixed one at that - he shuts down. He's under an insane amount of stress at work at the moment, and has been for the last few months, so I tried to point out that that will effect his count as well, but he's not really listening to me.

TBH, I think he's at his limit of things he can cope with at the moment. Once this damn work situation is resolved maybe he'll actually listen to me. I hope so, his work is starting to affect our relationship. But that's for another thread.

Thanks for all your suggestions ladies - I'm adding them all into my 'book', and will change what I have control over, until he's ready to help out. Food and exercise I can look after, even the Royal Jelly stuff. It's a start anyway

[Jennifer13]

Thanks for all your suggestions ladies - I'm adding them all into my 'book', and will change what I have control over, until he's ready to help out. Food and exercise I can look after, even the Royal Jelly stuff. It's a start anyway

Time to crush up the Menevit and sprinkle it on his cereal! JK.

I'm so sorry you guys are dealing with so much stress. It sounds like you're going through a lot right now. I hope you can come through it all soon.

[Tuesday's Child]

for you and for Professor

He might just be processing, instead of talking (as men do ). I hope his work issues resolve soon. I think you're right to focus on the changes YOU can make for now.