MissB, although I have not had a miscarriage that I know of, I can relate to what you are saying.
I am really sorry you are going through this
FWIW, I don't think your FS can say the next pg will be good or bad because, honestly, how does he know??? He doesn't.
I think all you can do is take a leap of faith. After all, that's what every woman who decides to conceive does, as bringing a baby into the world has so many risks attached - no matter what your age. It's a gamble. One that we can only pray pays off. But one thing's for sure, if you don't try, you'll never hit the jackpot.
I can't offer advice on IVF or TTC over the age of 30 but I know from my experiences TTC after m/c takes a whole lot of strength. I don't think a day goes by where I don't question what I'm doing or have second thoughts.
Firstly, huge hugs Miss B, youve already been through so much. I totally understand what it feels like to lose hope in ever bringing home another baby and the feeling of hopelessness that it brings. Your fears are perfectly valid. N2L is right, its all a gamble, and one that will never pay off if we dont try. Trying again after m/c is hard though and the choice to do so (or not) is yours to make.
I just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world for when (and if) you cycle next, and I pray for a miracle for you xx.
hun, as you know our circumstances are quite similar, the more i look into things the more i seem to find that the vast majority of embryos are chromosomally abnormal as you get older (that is probably stating the obvious but as you say its in the vicinity of 70%), from what i have read about pgd even the embryos that "look" perfect at day 5 the vast majority are abnormal, so if you do ivf you may get several that look perfectly fine, put one in and the others in the freezer and then you might get pregnant get to 6 weeks miscarry again, wait several months put another (unknowingly abnormal) from the freezer in and the pattern continues
as you know this takes a huge emotional toll not to mention expense and i know pgd is more expensive but we are wondering if doing a cycle or 2 of pgd and getting embryos that you KNOW are "normal" would help.......this probably isn't helping you, just what is going on in our heads at the moment
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