What's happened to my DH?

[Ree*Ree]

Thanks snikkers

BG thanks for the advice, I think this must have been playing on his mind for quite some time. Hopefully the doctor can give him/us some reassurance to help ease the stress.

Keike ohh how interesting! Looking forward to the link, maybe we will do our own 'experiment' and see if there is anything in his urine?

Elocin, thankyou so much I am guilty of telling him that everything will be ok and we'll get this sorted, not to worry etc. I'll try a different, more listening, approach tonight.

He found it so hard to actually put his concern into words, I hope I don't scare him off by bringing it up.. Maybe I should leave it alone unless he brings it up again?

Thanks so much again ladies for your replies xxx

[Elocin]

Elocin, thankyou so much I am guilty of telling him that everything will be ok and we'll get this sorted, not to worry etc. I'll try a different, more listening, approach tonight.

He found it so hard to actually put his concern into words, I hope I don't scare him off by bringing it up.. Maybe I should leave it alone unless he brings it up again?

Don't stress about it hun... I always found it hard hearing somebody else say 'it'll be fine' when it's something that is constantly worrying you!!

Maybe now that he's got it off his chest, he'll be a little more receptive to talking about it if you bring it up.

Ask him what he wants to do about it, because if you start pushing him to get answers, it'll probably only end in an argument - because I know with my DH if I push him to go to the Dr for anything, he gets cranky at me!!

The best thing you can do Ree, is to just be there for him and listen to him. You will get through it together.

Big, big hugs

[briggsy's girl]

Ask him what he wants to do about it, because if you start pushing him to get answers, it'll probably only end in an argument - because I know with my DH if I push him to go to the Dr for anything, he gets cranky at me!!

The best thing you can do Ree, is to just be there for him and listen to him. You will get through it together.

i agree totally.

you can't NOT bring it up at this point - it will become the elephant in the room and the longer you don't talk about it because you're scared to upset him, the harder it will become to bring it up kwim? tell him you've been thinking about it, and what does he want to do? what does he need from you? does he need to talk about it or would he rather just not talk for now? speaking to you is going to be very different to talking to the GP. keep your approach respectful and gentle - don't give him empty platitudes though cos it doesn't help! nothing worse than "we'll be right" (the bug bear comment from DH lol)

you may want to talk about the fact that you're ttc. that is going to put a huge amount of "weight" on him when he is feeling like he is. can you perhaps agree to put TTC on hold for a while to give him a chance to talk to the GP (and potentially the urologist) - take "sperm" out of the equation for the time being. allow any physical intimacy be purely about the two of you, and not the deposit at the end, to take the pressure off him. the last thing you want or need at this point is for him to think he's told you what is going on, you only want the sperm, and to lose the physical intimacy in your relationship, making it worse for him. as well as the feelings he is having at the moment in regard to worrying about the physical, there is a very real chance he is feeling guilty about the ttc thing as well. i know when we got confirmation that it was me that was the cause of all our issues and DH was fine, the weight of that was HUGE. just something to keep in mind

[Ree*Ree]

Thanks so much again BG and Nic for your wonderful advice! I'm taking it all on board

DH seems a bit happier now that he's got this off his chest, and he really wants me to be there with him when he sees the Dr. So i will be there for him, and make sure the doc answers all our questions.

[briggsy's girl]

Glad that he is happier to be talking about it - must have been playing on his mind a lot

[Elocin]

I'm so glad he's happier Ree and that he wants you there with him at the Dr's.

Thinking of you xo

[Ree*Ree]

Booked in to see the GP tomorrow, can't wait to get some answers and know where we stand...

ETA - appt is on Friday thought today was Thursday lol