Worried its all over

[collo04]

I started cramping again last night 8 days after embryo transfer and it still hasnt gone away its not too painful but it just feels like AF is coming, she due in 4 or 5 days. Can All this cramping be a good sign? Im just scared that its all over red rover.... Has anyone else had this and still ended up with a BFP???????

[briggsy's girl]

hun, at 8DPT, it's possible to be having implantation occuring, so it could well be a positive thing! don't give up hope yet

want to send you huge hugs hunny - won't be too long now til your BT

[Lissie]

Collo4,
Wishing you so much luck - hope it all turns out to be a positive sign - sending you some

[collo04]

Thanks Lissie but I started spotting today like I normally do so Im assuming AF will be her as predicted..... I so wish I could just have a beautiful baby. even if I could only have one I would love it to bits and be the best mummy ever.. Why cant I even have a chance at it...

[visitor10]

Oh Collo....you sound down you poor thing. I wish I could wave a magic wand and you would have that beautiful baby you have always wanted & I'm sure you would be the greatest mum. I also wish that I had something to say to make you feel better but there isn't is there? Just know that we are all here for you....

Lotz of

[collo04]

I know Im just sad all the time I hate feeling this way but I dont know how to feel any other way anymore I just hate this whole busiiness. Why is it so easy for others yet I can even have a glimmer of hope? Its not even exciting anymore thinking I might get pregnant I actually dread the week leading up to it because I know itll end in tears... Thanks for your support I really dont have anyone who understands how I feel DH tries but he is upset too but rarely talks about it. If I didnt discover this website I would feel very alone.

[csab]

Please don't give up yet. Spotting can even be a sign of implantation. I am so sure that your dreams of becoming a mummy will come soon if it is not meant to be this time. The most important thing is try to not stress. (I Know that is easier said than done) But stress can do alot of unwelcome things to your body. I hope all turns out well for you this month.

[bettyboop]

send you a big hug,i pray that oneday you will be holding your own baby soon.

[sassba32]

oh collo! You poor thing, I know I am not alone when I say that I can totally sympathise. TTC and especially TTW is such a trial!!! I hate the ttw because I've come to expect it to end with AF, in the beginning I would be excited but that is a while ago now.
However please don't give up yet!!!! It could be implantation, really it could. Try to stay positive and feel that it might go your way this month.
Just know that whatever you go through now will be so worth it when you have that little bundle of joy in your arms. It will be unbelievable the love and happiness (and relief) you'll feel!!
Everyone says to me, chin up, kinda patronising but it is actually all you can do.
lots of baby dust from me!!sassba

[sassba32]

hi Collo, If you feel theres something that needs to be further investigated then push for it, maybe your current FS will surprise you?
Sorry I dont know your story but you sound unsatisfied and that just adds to the emotional strain.
sassba
Ps. I hear stories from friends all the time about the cycles they fell pregnant, they'd just not felt pregnant, had spotting or just knew AF was on the way and voula! they were pregnant. Dont count yourself out yet, try to stay positive or at least open minded...good luck

[collo04]

Thanks everyone it means so much to me. I thought the dissappointment would be a thing of the past when decided go through IVF but the disappointment with each failure just seems so intense. O be okay you just have to be I guess .

csab - Thanks honey but my body does this every month so I m pretty sure another cycle has bitten the dust. I just dont no how to get a doctor to investigate things further. No professional seems to care. I cant keep putting us both through this if we have no answers to why we cant fall pregnant.

[butterfly_warrior]

Collo, it absolutely breaks my heart to see you so down at the moment.

I do wish I could help... how long before AF do you start to spot? I'm assuming it's more than just the day before AF starts? I do recall my FS asking me if I had premenstrual spotting, so I'm assuming if I did he'd have done something about it.

I've found him to be incredibly thorough, and while he has at times frustrated me with his psycho-babble which was all aimed at getting me to be happy and relaxed and stop stressing... he managed to work his magic with us.

Would you consider seeking a second opinion? Is a trip to Parramatta too far? He does have a policy of each new patient will get an appointment within a week of making first contact.

Let me know, and I'll PM you some info if you are interested.

Meanwhile, sending you the hugest of huge hugs. :hugs:

BW

[Julie M]

Hi collo,
This is my first message and your messages were the first I went to, I know exactly how you are feeling and I know it's hard to find anyone out there that can even slightly understand how you feel. I started trying to fall pregnant at the age of 23 and I am now 40, I gave up hope 12 months ago and decided to get on with life. I then came across something that changed my life.. "The law of attaction" I know this is starting to sound a little heavy but it's not. I had to BELIEVE i could have a baby. I got out a note book and wrote only positive afermations "I will fall pregnant and have a baby my baby wil be strong and healthy". (There was a little more in it but you get the idea) I wrote that down over 200 times. I really beleived it could happen. No longer did I say, I'm giving the IVF another go. I said, I am going to have a baby. Guess what I'm now pregnant!!!! 17 years of trying1 What a mirical. I know how hard it is to pull yourself out of the hole but take one little step at a time, it gets easier and easier.

Thanks everyone it means so much to me. I thought the dissappointment would be a thing of the past when decided go through IVF but the disappointment with each failure just seems so intense. O be okay you just have to be I guess .

csab - Thanks honey but my body does this every month so I m pretty sure another cycle has bitten the dust. I just dont no how to get a doctor to investigate things further. No professional seems to care. I cant keep putting us both through this if we have no answers to why we cant fall pregnant.

[sonya1]

collo honey :hugs: hope it isnt the end for this round. my fingers are crossed that its implantation, but im sure you know your body well. take care and im thinking of you.

[csab]

I will keep my fingers crossed for you and your dh. My heart really feels for you, I just cant express enough just how much. I however will keep sending you positive vibes your way.

[collo04]

Thanks BW You have just made me happy by being so caring. I go to westmead fertility centre anyway so parramatta not too far, who is the Doctor? Ill give anything a go. My doc just said when I told him about my spotting at the first appaointment " Ah yes thats just a sign of decreased fertility" and then carried on with refferal to IVF. When I brought it up when the last cycle failed he just said it could have failed for many reasons. But he has failed to investigate further.

I usually spot 4 - 7 days befor my periods......

[butterfly_warrior]

PM coming your way, collo.

4-7 days is WAY too long in my mind!

BW

[collo04]

Thanks Sassba maybe just maybe Im getting all worked up over nothing . Ijust want to see my DH face the day I find out he deserves to be so happy it just breaks my heart because its not just me going through this its them as well.

Ive been following your story so how have you gotten on???