Jeanette,

That is shocking. I am gobsmacked.

What is it that your DH does for a living in this job?

If I was you I would get back onto head office and explain what has now happened. And also record dates & times & specifics of all "conversations" that you both have with with them and with the boss.

I am not clear at all on adoption legislation in relation to work-practice: I have a feeling it is simply down to company policy a lot of the time.

Keep us posted.