Hi Ryn,

You need to get that husband of yours into shape before the baby comes. Maybe I'm spoilt, but my husband lets me sleep in (until 8:00) almost every day (I do get up to feed my 3rd baby when needed). He feeds the kids b'fast most mornings, and pack's my son's lunch. When I get up, I firstly make him a nice coffee (I need one right away) and I have my b'fast while he has his (made by him). Then he is off to work. I try to keep the house tidy, but he fully supports me having a fortnightly cleaner, and when he comes home from work he helps me tidy with the kids. Then we put the 3 kids to bed together and I then make dinner. After dinner he does the dishes - he even does them when he cooks (which admittedly isn't very often at all). He does all the gardening and DIY stuff, and anything I ask him to do (as long as I don't nag). Did I mention that I was a SAHM? I thought that this would mean that I did everything cleaning-wise, but taking care of 3 kids is pretty exhausting work. Anyhow, I agree with the other posters that your hubby needs to pull his head in BIG TIME - maybe he should read what other husbands are doing out there for their wives. I just couldn't handle the type of criticism that you are dealing with. I really feel for you - you sound too nice!! So, grow some balls and tell your husband that he can either cut you some slack or F@#$@$ off!!! Perhaps that is too strong of words to use (he is still your husband after all), but he seriously needs to get some perspective on this!!

If you can possibly afford it, get yourself a cleaner, even fortnightly. Good cleaners are worth every cent I think!

Good luck, girlfriend, Mary