Awwww Ryn If I was living where your are, I'd be happy to come give you a helping hand. I really feel for you.
Has DH always been like this? Do you think he is worse now because (as you mention) he is so unhappy living in that house he chose? Maybe he has lost interest in it, because he isnt happy there and thats his way of showing it? Hmmm Not sure hun, but men have a funny way about things sometimes.
I wish I could click my fingers and fix it all for you, but I cant so for now I will just have to give you a big