Thanks so much for all of your replies girls. Yesterday I had a big chat with dh and cried some more but it was also a constructive chat! We talked about everything and even selling the house and or moving to a place that has a lower cost of living and is more affordable than the sunshine coast. We both love it here though and dh has a great job where we get to spend lots of time together. Our original plan was that if I went back to work it could be for 2 of his days off and DS would not need to be put into care BUT now even if I worked 2 days a week it still wont be enough... but at least it'd be a start. I can't even bare to leave him for a day though even I know he'd be in great hands with dh.. I'd just miss him too much and I physically feel ill even thinking of dropping him off at day care I would sell the house 1st and move I think. Gosh that sounds so silly but I feel that strongly about it. I wish I was more flexible and not such a big sook. Then I feel guilty because so many mums have to do it and I am already so lucky that dh has the job and hours that he has. Can't I just this once have my cake and eat it too?
There have been so many wonderful ideas! Most of the physical things are pretty much out unless it's something I can take at my own pace, which letterbox deliveries would be but I don't think I'm fit enough to commit to something like that yet. House cleaner, gardening, I lack motivation to even do those things at my own home, I'm such a sad case!!!!! A friend who has a 4 year old is doing that and making some good money. I know there is work in that area but my body just wouldn't keep up with it. Bit of background on my body... It took me a good 3 years of intensive chriopractic, massage and acupuncture to get my neck to a point where it wasn't in pain every day so physical stuff just isn't on the cards and dh wouldn't let me do it anyway which is nice as he puts my health 1st.
I had thought of the night fill, the local IGA is wonderful here and I already know a handful of the staff and all of the workers there actually seem happy which I think says something! BUT I'm such a morning person and by around 4pm I'm really starting to wind down and then by 5 I'm pretty much good for nothing. It's something I will keep in mind for when DS is older if we still haven't found a permanent solution, at the moment he's still feeding and waking lots during the night.
I'm already in one of those multilevel marketing type of thingos but I have never signed anyone up or sold anything to anyone else It's Melaluca and I'm even thinking of letting my membership go as it's really expensive and I'm sure there's much cheaper environmentally friendly stuff in the supermarket. Besides I don't have a big enough network of people to market something like that but it's fantastic for people who do.
FDC I think we'd tick all the boxes, I imagine we'd just need a shaded play area outside and play equipment and that would probably be it as far as house set up goes. I had thought that it'd be great to be able to get toys and other educational equipment etc as a tax deduction woohoo but after our chat dh does not want to do family day care. I'm going to keep it in the memory bank though as I'd rather do that then have ds in day care if it looks like it's going to come to that.
So that leaves me with a few of my other skills... I have been a PA before which I enjoyed and before having bub I was running an office. That job is still available but the hours wont suit and the income wont be high enough. BUT we have a friend in the states who I may be able to be his virtual PA He mentioned to us when he visited a month ago that his partner doesn't want to do it anymore but it was only yesterday during our chat that we thought we'd ask is he'd be keen for a virtual PA so we sent him an email and hopefully he will come back with some good news! The other thing that I'm up to is starting a hobby... something that I've been interested in for years is crystals/gem stones and I've wanted a hobby for about 5 years now so decided that I'd spend some money and get the gear to make jewelery. I've ordered the stuff on line a couple of days ago. I initially hadn't thought of selling any of it as I don't even know if I'll be any good at it but I could make a website and sell some necklaces etc online and maybe on ebay. OH and the ironing idea, I like it but I did have to laugh because I'm pretty bad at ironing! hahahah but I could get good at it if I got a client LOL it could be worth putting a notice up on the community notice boards. And if all else fails I guess there is always a waitressing/bar job. I really liked running restaurants and cafes years ago but it's a fast paced environment and I've slowed down a lot... Maybe I need to get my but into gear and speed up again!
Again thanks so much everyone sorry for such a mammoth post, I guess I'm thinking out loud.
OP what sort of work do you normally do? There are definately legit jobs you can work from home, but a lot of the E-bay selling type jobs really only make a bit of spending money (well as far as my friends have found).
I work in govt. and you can sometimes apply to work 1 or 2 days from home but of course that depends on what your job description is. I have heard that there are legitimate jobs such as medical typing that you can do from home but you would need to know somebody who does it to point out the genuine jobs from the scams.
Good luck!
thanks peanutsmummy! medical typing would actually really suit me and I'd say I'd be qualified for it too... don't know anyone who does that though I still haven't found anything and we are still really stressed over it. We are still looking at moving as an option so if the right job came up in the right location I think we'd take it. I just worked out today that if I went back to my old job working on all the days that dh could look after ds I still wouldn't be making enough to fill the gap so we really need something more stable and preferable work from home for me.
You gals are great with all of your ideas! Keep them coming
but it was also a constructive chat! We talked about everything and even selling the house and or moving to a place that has a lower cost of living and is more affordable than the sunshine coast. We both love it here though and dh has a great job where we get to spend lots of time together. Our original plan was that if I went back to work it could be for 2 of his days off and DS would not need to be put into care BUT now even if I worked 2 days a week it still wont be enough... but at least it'd be a start. I can't even bare to leave him for a day though even I know he'd be in great hands with dh.. I'd just miss him too much and I physically feel ill even thinking of dropping him off at day care
I would sell the house 1st and move I think. Gosh that sounds so silly but I feel that strongly about it. I wish I was more flexible and not such a big sook. Then I feel guilty because so many mums have to do it and I am already so lucky that dh has the job and hours that he has. Can't I just this once have my cake and eat it too?
It's Melaluca and I'm even thinking of letting my membership go as it's really expensive and I'm sure there's much cheaper environmentally friendly stuff in the supermarket. Besides I don't have a big enough network of people to market something like that but it's fantastic for people who do.
He mentioned to us when he visited a month ago that his partner doesn't want to do it anymore but it was only yesterday during our chat that we thought we'd ask is he'd be keen for a virtual PA so we sent him an email and hopefully he will come back with some good news! The other thing that I'm up to is starting a hobby... something that I've been interested in for years is crystals/gem stones and I've wanted a hobby for about 5 years now so decided that I'd spend some money and get the gear to make jewelery. I've ordered the stuff on line a couple of days ago. I initially hadn't thought of selling any of it as I don't even know if I'll be any good at it but I could make a website and sell some necklaces etc online and maybe on ebay. OH and the ironing idea, I like it but I did have to laugh because I'm pretty bad at ironing! hahahah but I could get good at it if I got a client LOL it could be worth putting a notice up on the community notice boards. And if all else fails I guess there is always a waitressing/bar job. I really liked running restaurants and cafes years ago but it's a fast paced environment and I've slowed down a lot... Maybe I need to get my but into gear and speed up again!
sorry for such a mammoth post, I guess I'm thinking out loud.
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I still haven't found anything and we are still really stressed over it. We are still looking at moving as an option so if the right job came up in the right location I think we'd take it. I just worked out today that if I went back to my old job working on all the days that dh could look after ds I still wouldn't be making enough to fill the gap so we really need something more stable and preferable work from home for me. 
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