I feel for you, I really do. I was never in your possition because I resigned from work as I knew we would have to TTC for #2 pretty much straight away. BUT, I was called for jury duty when Olivia was 11 months and putting her in childcare then was very difficult for me.

However, after the initial adjustment period, I did actually enjoy my time away from her, and came back from court every day really a better Mummy for it! (She thrived in the childcare environment totally BTW)

But I can see your dilemma. It is a real toughie, and really, only you can make the choice.

If it were me, I would try it for a while and see how you both go. Be prepared to go through every emotion under the sun, and then make further decisions based on how you feel?