I think you should take it, with a pay increase and if it doesn't work then you can always go back to your original plan. Mr A$$hole needs to get sorted out though otherwise this prob is going to keep coming up. 5-12 sounds wonderful to me, allday home with your kids and a pay increase..........wanna swap jobs!?hehehe

Follow your heart Trace.........what do you really want to do. If you feel uncomfortable taking this offer than maybe its not for you.