Hi hun I agree that your DP will probably be shocked by how much time a baby needs! I have hired pregnant people plenty of times for contract roles or temp roles and it can be a great arrangement for both you and the employer. One because you know you can work for x number of the months and your employer is safe in the fact that you won't be off trying to get a full-time job which happens a lot with temp employees! Start scoping around now at agencies and see if you can get some level of comfort around potential temp roles just in case you need it.
Goodluck!
As the others have said, it doesn't sound like he has a real understanding of the reality of a new baby. You should keep negotiations open with DH, but don't push him too much until after the baby is born and he has a chance to see for himself. It may be that he has to reconsider drawing a wage for himself out of the business, or look into other avenues of financial support. maybe point out to him that there would be the cost of childcare (even if he is at home, he will be working!). But don't push him on it too hard too quick - because if he is anything like my DH and all the other males I know, he will get defensive about and even more stubborn and refuse to change his mind, or even consider other alternatives.
Also maybe you could look into a career change, a work at home job - or taking on a different time burden (ie, casual, part-time or after hours). find a job that suits your new lifestyle. I have a job that requires me to work as a casual, only a couploe of nights a week - the money isn't great because of the short hours, but without childcare costs etc, we seem to have about as much as if I worked fulltime. There are also options such as tupperware, Avon, etc.
I hope he changes his priorities around. Either his business starts earning the $$ to support the FAMILY or he can go and get a bloody trainee job somewhere....
Lol Lulu! Well good news is I am now off my traineeship, so earning decent wages- about twice what I was earning as a trainee! I'm still at the same place, doing the same job, just in a temporary position, but that is only until the end of this month. There is an opportunity for me to stay on doing what I am doing as there is a permanent full time position about to be advertised for it. So fingers crossed I am successful! Only people who already work in the organisation are able to apply for it, so hopefully I will be the only one applying! But still, I won't be eligible for maternity leave I don't think, although they are fairly flexible employers, and being a government job too...so I dont know.
Need to figure something out though, at the moment I'm paying all the bills/groceries etc, as of this morning DF's business account has about $500 in it which is quite scary...towards the end of the month a stack of invoices are due to be paid by customers so that should help somewhat, but have to survive until then, so at this stage I don't see how he plans to draw a wage from it at all in the near future! *gulp*
I;m sure something will turn up....until then I'll try not to worry too much! But thanks everyone for your support, it does make it easier to stress less!
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