I went back to work (same office diff role) 6 weeks ago for 2 days a week only to be called last monday to say he was doing a reshuffle and there was no job now.
I only just found this thread too..
Its not easy is it! I went back to work 3-4 days a week when DD was 5 and a half months old. I really struggled, with guilt.. With feeling ripped off and robbed of my time with her.. I was lucky to have family look after her (and they still do) which has helped them as well. I was alsoo feeling guilty for liking it? I got some 'stevie' time.. But I would give that all up to be a sahm.. I am still so jealous of those that get to spend every day with their kids. This is another reason,we are putting off ttc#2 we want to be financially ready for me to be able to maybe take 12 months off..
Yup. We've known since reasonably early into our relationship that DH would be the SAHD, as long term, he wants to be a Dad and write novels. I've never wanted to be a SAHM and my career doesn't lend itself in the slightest to being a WAHM.
My hours at the moment are just sucky - I'm normally out the door by 6.15 and I get home anywhere from 6.30pm to 2am depending on what's happening at work,.
We have the boys in daycare one day a week - a concept for a full time parent which I completely did NOT understand until I had kids of my own and saw how hard it is to be ontop of the housework, do shopping, do uni, etc, with kids!!
DH came to a negotiation with his work for him to work a .5 position from home, but sadly the guy at work who was taking over the balance of his job just really doesn't pull his weight, and so his work wanted DH to come in for an hour or so every day to catch up on the stuff the other guy "wasn't getting to". Getting someone to babysit 2 under 2 for 1.5-3 hours *everyday* was going to obliterate the benefit of the pay (as they just were paying him .5 of the full time salary) and when it became clear they weren't going to give him a raise for the forth year running we're pulling the plug. I don't think they'll be surprised ... I'm hoping they don't try to diddle DH out of his annual leave and LSL entitlements... will wait and see what happens.
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