not exactly on topic, but i really feel for you.... i had an active birth of around something ridiculous like 20 hours, which resulted in an emergency c-section... the ob that performed the c-section told my partner (and me but i don't recall) that i would have really slim chances of birthing a baby vaginally due to the shape of my pelvis, he actually put a number on it, gave me 5-10% chance.... i had it in my head that i would definitely go for an elective c-section next time and was happy with that decision... but as time passed and i gained more perspective, i realised i really wanted to avoid a c-section unless it was absolutely necessary, i also realised how ridiculous it was for an ob to make a statement like that, i mean on what basis was he deciding this, did he have some sort of magical tape measure and he did a few calculations before stitching me up.....??
so, i have decided to have an xray just to rule out what the ob has said.... but of course if the xray comes back a little bit grey (haha) and uncertain, then i will be in quite the predicament.... not wanting to go through what i went through last labour/birth, but at the same time not wanting to rely on the opinion of one ob and an xray and have an elective c-section robbing me of the chance to birth my baby the way mother nature intended....
i feel for you, its awful to have that doubt....
my labour was the worst thing that i have ever been through, i had post traumatic stress afterwards and it took me over 12 months to recover emotionally.... however all this time on i still feel, even with an xray saying i can't do it, i still feel like i want to give it a shot.... the thing is you can only try, and if its not going right there is always the option of a c-section, but if you don't try you will never know.... the way i see it there isn't much to lose by trying, they always err well on the side of caution and if there is any sign of distress to the baby they will be encouraging a c-section, you will just have spent a few (!!) hours labouring which you could have avoided, but then at least you know you tried....!
Yeah Beau, perhaps you should look at a another OB anyway, one who has a little more respect for you and your thoughts and feelings. Nothing worse than being dismissed.
hey emma,
i feel for you that you had to go through a birthing experience like that. it sounds very similar to my sister who after 13 hours of labor that wasn't progressing enough, the baby hadn't even dropped properly (now we know he couldn't) the dr's had to interviene with the midwife (she wanted to keep trying) and give her a emergency c-section, and the ob told her then that she couldn't have given birth naturally. my nephew was born in distress, the mother was distressed and lost a lot of blood resulting in a transfusion and i believe she had traumatic stress too for quite some time afterwards.
but she said she did feel disappointed that she couldn't birth naturally, but will not put her next baby in danger and is opting straight for a caesar.
it is a big decision to have to make especially when it's your child, and i'm with you i don't think there's any harm in trying, i just have a bit of doubt that i'm trying to overcome and make the right decision, but hopefully after a few more opinions from a couple of obs i'll make that decision.
Can I just say that I would take my chiro's opinion any day. The reason my last birth was so short and easy (but still excruciating) was due to my amazing chiro. Your spine is the key to all your health. I would get more opinions but I wouldn't dismiss your chiro's opinion either.
Webby- i see a chiro and an osteo and they are both awsome, keep me in good shape. I trust them 100% But if one of them were to tell me i couldn't birth naturally, i wouldn't be taking their word as gospel. I would certainly be looking at getting other opinions.
I didn't mean to offend with my comment of Chiro's not being experts on birth. Obviously some have more experience than others in certain areas. But i was making the point that they do not have a mediacal degree, yes they are experts on the skeletal system, but not birthing per se.
It is great to hear that your chiro was so instrumental in your last birth. Hope the next one is the same. Sorry if i offended.
I may be facing the same decision soon. My body is only small and it has always been a concern that I may not have enough room through my pelvis for a baby to pass through. We spoke to our Obs on our first visit to him and he said we will have a closer look at that later on. Last week we had out third trimester growth scan and it looks like our baby boy is going to be big. He is already measuring 2 weeks ahead of himself. We have our appointment this Thursday with the Obs to discus what he thinks. I have made it clear to him that I am not interested in going through hours of labour only to have a c/s. He is aware of that and said we will see how we go but assured me he wont let it get that far. If he says to me that there is a chance that this will not go well vaginally and could end up being a c/s. I will have to decide if I give it a go or not risk it and book in an elective c/s. Honestly I would love to give birth vaginally but If I don't I am not going to think that I am less of a woman or that my body let me down. My body most certainly didn't let me down. We conceived and grew a healthy baby, I am happy to decide on a c/s if that is what is best to bring my little man into the world!
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But if one of them were to tell me i couldn't birth naturally, i wouldn't be taking their word as gospel. I would certainly be looking at getting other opinions. 
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