I also had a bit of a remission in pregnancy... My rheumy assured me that serum-negative forms of RA tend not to flare after birth - but it just made sense to me that as pregnancy had helped me feel better, the end of pregnancy would make me feel worse. I'd had flares after each of my miscarriages as well. Turns out I was right and he was wrong... Not that there was any satisfaction in being right.

You seem to be so much more prepared than I was. I took my rheumy at his word. Fortunately, my DH really stepped up and helped a lot around the house in the first few weeks and I had him at home most days for the first 8-9 weeks of Sam's life. I think it got me so hard because I wasn't at all prepared for it, so I think you are right in that you will probably be ok. Good luck with it!

BW