This really is gonna be TMI, and the only reason I'm putting it here is because I don't actually know any of you IRL, so it feels safe. Otherwise I would be even more embarrassed. Which is also why I haven't gone to a doctor

For a while now (months rather than weeks), I've been in pain when doing #2 - not the whole time, just sharply and quickly. It kind of feels like my perineum is grazed, but I don't have a clue as to how it would've happened. I'm currently taking Benefibre to try and soften everything, but it doesn't seem to be affecting the pain. And not long after, I noticed that I feel like I'm being torn whenever DH and I DTD. I've tried lube, different positions, going slower, making sure I've O'd before he enters - nothing works. In the last couple of weeks, its actually stopped us DTD, because its just incredibly painful. It almost feels like there's something else in my vagina thats being rubbed when DH is there. This morning it hurts to even sit down, I feel like there's a gash going down from the bottom of my vagina.

It hurt so bad last night that, out of desperation, I asked DH to look down there to see if there was anything visible, but he says there's not. I really don't want to go to a doctor, I just don't have a GP that I'm comfortable with. Please, ANY suggestions would be helpful