I'm not sure what you want me to say, all I'm saying is that as a follow up to my OP, I got a second opinion and I'm glad I did. I'd already had my first birth by then, despite the hideous pregnancy I'd had. This time round I was armed with MUCH better information and caregivers who helped me achieve my goals. If your goal is to have a safe CS, then take your information with you
My responses aren't specific to any posters here - this kind of thread can be found by anyone, and there may be someone who finds it having been told CS is the only way, or cessation of BFing, or any other unfounded blanket prescriptions.
I'll fill you (general 'you') in on what happened after my OP. I posted a similar thread on the ABA forum and was directed to a clinic recommended by one of the members there. I never looked back. The twisting of my pelvis was awful and it took a while to correct it (it kept wanting to go back, because the surrounding muscles were 'trained' by then to brace in maladaptive bays). I took up yoga again and eventually fell pg again. This time the pain began a lot earlier and I got onto it with a new osteo who was just even more fantastic than the first osteo clinic I went to! She really knew her stuff about women's physiology and pregnancy physiology. So, I still had loosening and pain, but it was managed a lot better and whilst the pain would get to me, I knew that what I had been doing meant it wasn't as bad as it could otherwise be.
It's only just started to arc up again, 4 months post-partum, but I can put that down to some casual regard for my pelvis and getting overconfident, physically.
ANyway, that was the spirit of my responses here. SInce when, on BB, do we suggest taking caregiver's advice at face value??
Sorry if I sounded grumpy Mayaness - I just feel pressured to have a vaginal birth from my ob and some of my physios (I take pot luck on who I see at the same clinic so I've seen about five so far which I don't mind because as you say, it's good to have more than one opinion).
So I'm getting lots and lots of different opinions - the midwives I've spoken to have been in favour of a caesar and so has one of my physios.
I'm not finding the case for a vaginal birth compelling because my physios are just simply saying that it generally takes less time to recover from a vaginal birth. But I know that already. My point to them is that it took me 18 months last time to recover from a vaginal birth. I feel that they are generalising and the information they are giving me is not specific or reassuring.
So I've told my physios that if closer to the time there is a labouring position that I can hold without being in pain then yes, maybe I'll go for a vaginal birth. But, to me, it seems insane to try it IF I can't hold any position without being in pain because surely that would be further harming my pelvis - especially when it took three hours of pushing (after an already-long labour) then forceps to get DD out.
My most recent physio when I expressed my frustration about all the varying advice said that the above sounded very sensible and told me that yes, of course a vaginal birth is better for most women with SPD but my SPD is very severe and a vaginal birth could potentially harm it further, as it did last time. She recently saw a woman who'd just had her baby (she does visits to the hospital) who had it very bad the first time but had a caesarean the second time around and said that her pelvis was absolutely fantastic and she was stoked.
This is a huge issue for me because if it wasn't for the long recovery last time, this would be Baby No. 3 and basically if I'm going to try for No. 3, I really can't afford to be buggerising around waiting for nearly 3 years to TTC again. I don't mind my family size being limited by my fertility but I deeply resent it being limited by my stupid pelvis.
So, once again, sorry for sounding grumpy - part and parcel of SPD and generally feeling peed off with a housebound life.
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