Sorry if I sounded grumpy Mayaness - I just feel pressured to have a vaginal birth from my ob and some of my physios (I take pot luck on who I see at the same clinic so I've seen about five so far which I don't mind because as you say, it's good to have more than one opinion).

So I'm getting lots and lots of different opinions - the midwives I've spoken to have been in favour of a caesar and so has one of my physios.

I'm not finding the case for a vaginal birth compelling because my physios are just simply saying that it generally takes less time to recover from a vaginal birth. But I know that already. My point to them is that it took me 18 months last time to recover from a vaginal birth. I feel that they are generalising and the information they are giving me is not specific or reassuring.

So I've told my physios that if closer to the time there is a labouring position that I can hold without being in pain then yes, maybe I'll go for a vaginal birth. But, to me, it seems insane to try it IF I can't hold any position without being in pain because surely that would be further harming my pelvis - especially when it took three hours of pushing (after an already-long labour) then forceps to get DD out.

My most recent physio when I expressed my frustration about all the varying advice said that the above sounded very sensible and told me that yes, of course a vaginal birth is better for most women with SPD but my SPD is very severe and a vaginal birth could potentially harm it further, as it did last time. She recently saw a woman who'd just had her baby (she does visits to the hospital) who had it very bad the first time but had a caesarean the second time around and said that her pelvis was absolutely fantastic and she was stoked.

This is a huge issue for me because if it wasn't for the long recovery last time, this would be Baby No. 3 and basically if I'm going to try for No. 3, I really can't afford to be buggerising around waiting for nearly 3 years to TTC again. I don't mind my family size being limited by my fertility but I deeply resent it being limited by my stupid pelvis.

So, once again, sorry for sounding grumpy - part and parcel of SPD and generally feeling peed off with a housebound life.