When I had them done, I was about 27, I'm now 33, our son was 10 months old, I think I should have waited till he was about 2. I thought I was pregnant last week. I was meant to my period on the 24 june but did'nt get it till 28, and had all the signs, sore boobs going to the toilet alot. Did a test and it was neg, so waited 2 more days and that test was neg. He knows how I feel but still says no. He's says that with the kids at school, we don't need baby sitter's, and HE could'nt go through night feeds and nappy changes, like he did it anyway..
I know what you mean, it's not as though they do all the hard work. What a shame you weren't pregnant...I live in hope that my ligation wasn't successful but I know that the doctor was very thorough
I am still going to work on DH because I regret having them done, did the minute the surgery was over and now that Ivy and Noah are getting older, find myself feeling really incomplete.
Yeas, it was and it is that same for me. I went to see a card reader in march, and she said that I would get a new job, the same as what I'm doing now bit in a diffrent building, she said it would happen in april, may, and I got it in may. And she said I would sign a contract in june and I did, she also said a baby in oct/nov, it would be a boy, he was coming from my partner I'm with now, but his spirt was from a baby I had in a past life from a great love I had.. So maybe it might happen.. LOL
Sush,
it was a terrible, stupid thing for me to do and i have regretted it every day.
but i felt such pressure from everyone, even though i felt it was wrong at the time.
their birth was such a big emergency, i didn't have time to stop and think. i wish i had
the worst part about it is i was too scared to say something.
I've always regretted having my tubes tied. I went from super fertile to infertile and even a reversal didn't change that sad fact. Every time I hear of someone wanting a ligation, I wonder if they are going to wish they hadn't done it some time in the future.
Like you, Tiff, I want another bub now I've had Charlie. I will need IVF again if I'm to fall pg again, which makes me even more p****d that I agreed to a ligation in the first place!
I thought I wanted to have it done. My friend said I would regret it, and I did..She said that she could remember Rob saying it would be better 1 of each, and we could do more for them, so I had it done.. I needed a kick in the head..
Aw Tiff, you poor thing. I too caved to pressure. My XH wanted me to have it, and even though I knew I wanted more children, he didn't, and kept saying, 'but we're going to be together forever, and I don't want anymore' Stupid me, I couldn't argue with that.
Except he's now my ex, and is still able to have kids without medical intervention. I heard after we split up that his gf fell pg and he made her go for an abortion. Life sucks sometimes huh?
Yeah, men think it's there way or the high way. And if you don't do what they want then it's hell for you. At one point I was really thinking about getting it done and not telling him. But I could'nt I love him to much to do that. But then I think, if he love's me as much as he say's he does he would give me chance..
I got my tubes done because my second son is autistic and thought I couldn't cope with another child plus him. DH had really bad post natal (yep him not me) and he begged me to get my tubes done. I woke up crying in recovery. I knew it was wrong, I hated him for so long and it put a rift in our relationship a bit. He knew it was killing me inside. I always wanted to chave a nother baby, wether it was a boy or a girl, I didn't care. He has since told me he regrets ever asking me to get my tubes done and has asked me to forgive him for it.
Thee is hope though girls, I fell pregnant 3 times with them done but quiet obviously I m/c. I feel the same as you all. It is VERY selfish for men to expect us to do this to ourselves when we know its not right for us. Good one the girls who are happy to be done but god I craved to have another baby from the time I woke up until I fell asleep. I still cant believe im here, 30 weeks pg now. Its taken me lots to get use to but I just cant wait. I hope that you guys will find your peace and I pray another baby.
xxmaz
It's really sad to see how many women regret having it done hey?
I felt exactly the same way.
At first I used AF as my excuse for wanting the reversal, Af was nasty & would last up to 2 weeks sometimes, I had horrific cramps, & would absolutely flood the first day, it was a real nightmare. But when I told DH I would love another baby & having the op done would be a bonus he was thrilled!! & AF was so much better afterwards too.
I know it's wrong to fib to hubby's but have you ever thought of telling him it's because AF is so bad you need it done? (norty me, but that's what I had intended on doing, but guilt got the better of me.) I guess I was lucky to find DH felt the same way.
You shouldn't let yourselves be tormented like this for the sake of keeping some one else happy, it is your body, it is your right.
I have told him my AF is bad. Have told him that the first 2 days are really bad and like u I flood, and the cramps get bad to. But he don't want to listen to me. And I'm scared of telling him about getting it done for free, cos he will just yell and scream..
Wow, I just got my first AF after Ivy and Noah were born and I have bled and bled. I didn't know it could have something to do with the ligation!
I'm into week two now and am still bleeding. Interesting.
I don't know storm, because he's not the sort of guy that show's how he feel's. I think if I was to tell him about getting it done for free it would'nt make any diff. I had'nt had AF for about 3 months a few years ago, and when his mum ask what was wrong, I said nothing and then his dad said what u got r r**s 1 word I hate, and I said no have'nt had it for 3 month's, and they both said at the same time you better not pregnant. First time my DH stood up for me, and said that he did'nt want any more kids, but if it was to happen then we will deal with it, and told them to stay out of it..
(norty me, but that's what I had intended on doing, but guilt got the better of me.) I guess I was lucky to find DH felt the same way.
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