Sorry for your loss. :-(
I saw a psychic who told me that there was another child ( would be the 3rd) if I choose. Hmmm- what does that mean? If I choose it? We decided not to go for a third but that left me thinking, what happened to the little soul waiting to be chosen??

In answer to your question, I have no idea. :-) I guess what will be will be and what's meant to happen will happen.