Bathsheba - i am not 100% on culture at all, i just saw a man (although he was in a hurry for me not to see him).
I would be happy to HELP them move on if that's what they want, he has definitely distanced himself since our one sided chat and i offered that he tell me or show me what he need but he choose to keep his distance.
Re: the friendly i am not sure on her, she seems very peaceful and does not want to be seen, she just wants to check up on us and make sure we are ok... well thats my feeling anyway.
Did you get a chance to read my birth story? Did it give you any more insight into my visitors?
Bit of an update as i can't remember it i mentioned this, last week or the week before i think we went out for the morning, i came home and did some cleaning while A was at marks aunts, went back and picked her up and when i came home the 2 sliding doors in the lounge room were LOCKED.
The odd thing was when i left i remember shutting the fly screen and NOT the glass door, when i went to open it (expecting it would open) i smacked straight into it! WTF!
Now it was ONLY the two doors to OUTSIDE in the lounge.
DP thinks i'm insane and imaging things!
My theory is that as we don't lock the doors (never have only have a key to the kitchen door) maybe someone was coming near the house, we weren't home and 'the friendly' decided to make sure they couldn't get in.. then forgot to unlock for me to get back in?
So am i going nuts? told DP i want to start locking the doors when we are out, he says don't be stupid BUT some days last week when i was going to get the mail i saw a car at the top of the drive, we live on a mainish road and often people pull over if they are trying to find something etc.
By the time i got to the top of the driveway (on 10 acres) the car had pulled away, a day or so later i noticed what i thought was a similar car in the same spot as i got back near the house, saw it across the paddock and it wasn't there when i checked the mail.
SO DP was home alone on the w/end as i went away, he said at about 11pm he noticed something out the corner of his eye (we have the shutters down on the front of the house), then a car pulled up in the drive with it's lights on the side door (glass sliding), DP thought might be his aunty or something so got up and walked outside and then the car just took off back up the driveway (very long driveway)... WTF?
He didn't see the car etc so when i check the mail and stuff this week will be keeping an eye out....
Am i going insane? Should i start locking the house, we have NEVER had anyone come in here, maybe that person came last time and my 'visitors' kept them out?
i'd be locking up hun - even if your friendly wasn't the one to lock them last time, it's a bit suspect that a car has been coming and going like that. your driveway is by no means a short one - so for them to come up there, there has to be something going on...
if it WAS the friendly locking up to keep them out - good on her!
I am hoping it was her... hmm maybe my BP's were coming to be delivered and she locked the delivery guy out... lol no BP's yet!
Might start locking up, need to get a key cut for DP... worst part is it's for the kitchen door, the 1 door that sticks and is a pain in the butt to open!
Don't have keys for the others.
Heed BG's and your "Friendlies" advice darl! That sounds concerning. It reminds me of what happened to my mum. She always used to fret about me living in Fitzroy (a seedy part of inner Melbourne) she kept saying how much crime there was etc. Not long after one of her lectures HER house was broken into... or I should say "walked into". She lived near a tiny community of a few hundred people on a farmlet of her own.... her nearest neighbour was about 2 km away. So she was quite isolated but she thought she was safer out there than i was. She never locked up either. I'm not trying to scare you... just share a similar story. She kept dogs after that which helped a lot.
I read your birthstory too... I jad forgotteon but I'd read it soon after you posted it. Amazing and really well written. It does give a little insight as to why the woman "Friendly" might feel drawn to protect you. I still think that both spirits should be helped to move on... but of course that's up to you to pursue. Makes very interesting reading in the meantime
Do you think you are feeling attached to them? They can be hard to let go... it can be quite an ambivalent relationship in that you feel a bit nervous about them... but are drawn never-the-less. It's hard to explain. I don't want to make this about me or imply that you have a problem... but i have been through quite a severe addiction to ouiji boards. The spirit world can be quite charismatic.
Not so much attached to them as USED to them, i guess at the start i got used to the friendly checking up on us, she has never made me nervous.
The 'watcher' on the other hand took some time to get used to, i think i am just used to the fact they are there and not at all worried about their intentions anymore.
Funny thing is i LOVE the show the ghost whisperer... lol and i share the same birthday with Jennifer Love Hewitt you'd think i'd be trying everything to help them cross over..
Not sure where to start and hard to do anything as DP thinks i'm nuts as it is.
Yep, attached wasn't the right word... I agree that it can be easy to get used to something like this. I don't want to sound like I'm trying to tell you what do to or anything... but maybe keep in mind that it might seem harmless enough to be used to something like this... but that it could over time become something more. Their familiarity could slowly change into a kind of discomfort at the idea of them not being there anymore, especially the woman. Think of things from her perspective: do you think she would prefer that you liked having her around? How would she feel if you basically rejected her? How much i wonder does she need you? I'm just wondering if something that start out as a simple acknowledgement of her presence could grow.
I don't watch the Ghost Whisperer... well, maybe a few half programs when my DD was into it... but to me it would be an unnatural situation for her to become such a big part of your life that life didn't feel "right" if she was gone. KWIM? It's a slippery slope between telling yourself: "oh, she's just around... I don't mind... hmm, what has she been up to today... where is she?... is she still around?... I miss her". They can weave themselves into lives more deeply than you might think.... not saying that she has negative intentions. I'm sure she doesn't at all. Just keep an arms length yeah?
I promise i will keep them at arms length, to be honest don't think much about them until i sense they are there, the friendly only ever seems to be around when DP is not home for the night... or possibly if it was her locking someone out but i wasn't home so not sure.
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