**sensitive topic** Stillborn photography

**Lisa** · March 11th, 2008, 09:17 AM

Such a beautiful idea.

DoubleK · March 11th, 2008, 11:41 AM

i think thats a beautiful idea..

my mum had a stillborn baby when i was 5 (she would have been 18 this year!) we often talk about her and say 'imagine if...' i think that has helped my mum and dad over the years.

they had some photos taken of themselves and Rebecca after she was delivered, they used their own camera, dad went straight away to develop the film.. just in case they didnt work out, and guess what, they didnt, the film hadnt been wound on properly. he actually called the hosp from the phot place and said he will be back asap and they need to take more photos.
they eventually got their photos.

i think the idea of a professional doing the photography is great, i think the people doing this are very thoughtful. i also hope anyone needs to use this service is pleased with the results.

**feeb** · March 11th, 2008, 11:51 AM

What a lovely idea its something that is really needed as it is very hard for midwifes to be creative and take fantastic photos as it is not there specialised area, they are amazing at helping the woman and family but unless creative doesnt help with the pics.

Would be great if companys like this contacted all hospitals and could be available to do pictures at any time of the day.

**Trish** · March 11th, 2008, 02:28 PM

Feeb, we are in the process of doing just that atm. Also wanting to leave our details at various OB's, ante natal clinics/labour wards and also funeral homes.

The shame of it all is that all too often nothing is mentioned to these poor families until its too late. We are hoping to be well known enough that when the unfortunate does happen someone will tell these familes that there are services like us to give them beautiful photographic memories of their angel babies.

**Jo+3** · March 11th, 2008, 03:15 PM

What a beautiful thing to do. Instead of feeling sad I actually feel quite uplifted that there are people out there who really care. Life is to be cherished no matter how long it lasts.

**DrGirl72** · March 18th, 2008, 03:25 PM

I also sat in tears when I looked at the nilmdts website.. it is truly beautiful and lovely to know that such a service exists. thank you for telling us about it.

**Visitor9** · March 18th, 2008, 08:46 PM

It is something that hospitals should be aware of too, my photos were taken by the pathologist so they are very clinical. But I have never had the strength to get them developed and see them on paper because I am scared that someone that does will not see the beauty.

**fionas** · March 18th, 2008, 08:59 PM

Thanks for posting that SaraJane. I think it is hard for anyone who has not experienced a stillbirth to appreciate just how devastating it would be; but I think looking at those beautiful photographs has just deepened my understanding much more than words ever could. Very, very moving and a terrific service.

Thanks again.

**SHELL 70** · April 3rd, 2008, 10:15 PM

Can't stop crying, I think this is the most beautiful idea for us parents of stillborn babies. We took a few photos of our little Angel which are not the best quality but it is all we have so we treasure them dearly. Although Carly's memory is etched in my heart forever, a special portrait would definately help! Thank you for sharing this thread.