How long did you wait for your missed miscarriage to complete?

[Issa]

Hello all I am the mother of a almost 3 yrs little boy. In October last year during routine dating scan my baby (meant to be 9 wks pregnant) had died at 6 and half. I opted for conservative management as I've had one terrible termination and a emergency cesarian and felt 'not right' about having another d&c. Regular scans have showed the sac is now collapsed. I've had bleeding off and on since November. From dates I've been waiting 3 months.

My question is HOW LONG DID YOU WAIT FOR YOUR BODY TO NATURALLY EXPEL ? ie Are there any women out there who waited longer and how was it emotionally?

Thankyou very much
Issa

[Peach]

Hi Issa, I had a miscarriage in september of 2005 and it was quite quick to bring a heavy period. I *think* I saw my baby the day after I began bleeding. However the bleeding went for 2 weeks, and was extrememly heavy. Sorry for TMI. Took me a long long time to be at peace with what happened to me. Are you ok?

It then took me another 12 months to fall pregnant again.

Jen

[Shan]

Issa, I m/c in december and waited 5 days as didnt want a D&C. However by the fifth day the pain was excruitiating so ended up having a D&C. Afterwards I felt I could move forward.
I am thinking of you. Take care :hugs:

[Banx]

I was about 6 weeks pregnant and started bleeding heavy... I was admitted into hospital and I refused D&C as I personally regard D&C like a termination. About 2 days later my body expelled my little angel (sory TMI)

I fell pregnant 8 days later.. I am now almost 9 weeks pregnant with my little one..

Thinking of you xox

Love B

[~Aveta~]

Hello all I am the mother of a almost 3 yrs little boy. In October last year during routine dating scan my baby (meant to be 9 wks pregnant) had died at 6 and half. I opted for conservative management as I've had one terrible termination and a emergency cesarian and felt 'not right' about having another d&c. Regular scans have showed the sac is now collapsed. I've had bleeding off and on since November. From dates I've been waiting 3 months.

My question is HOW LONG DID YOU WAIT FOR YOUR BODY TO NATURALLY EXPEL ? ie Are there any women out there who waited longer and how was it emotionally?

Thankyou very much
Issa

hi Issa, i'm karan and was also nine weeks pregnant when i started cramping and spotting..see my intro "newbie" on the other forum page...i'm 43 and wasnt expecting to fall pregnant at all. then just as we got used to the idea.. anyways, apparently i'd been carrying a dead fetus for a week or two, so i went in immediately for the D&C. if left untreated, unexpelled fetal tissue can cause horrendous infection...i've never experienced it myself but seen the results in dogs, cattle and horses having grown up around farms. please talk to your doctor and get it checked. three months is a long time to wait and risk infection. i felt that because i'd already waited two weeks between scans that i couldn't cope with waiting any longer to lose what i already knew was a fetus with no heartbeat. i'm hoping to start trying again asap...wishing you all the best too.

karan

[~*Niadalla*~]

I suffered a natural/complete miscarriage the day after I started bleeding late august 2006.
3 months sounds like a very long time... Maybe go and see someone about that. I would be concerned if you had been bleeding everyday for 3 months, but thats JMO.

Wishing you all the very best. So sorry to hear of your loss.
xxoo

[Willow]

Aww hun, that sounds awful

I understand your fear of another D&C, my sister has Asherman's Syndrome as a result of a D&C so I was terrified to have one after my missed m/c, but emotionally and mentally it was definitely the right thing for me to do.

I think 3 months is an awfully long time and I think it might be a good idea to go and speak to someone about your options.

[tempus moriendi]

My last mc the baby died at 6 weeks, I expelled it at 10 weeks, after 6 days of bleeding.
Good luck. I'll keep you in my prayers.

[blackduckies]

Hi, I went for my 12 weeks US to find the baby had died at 10 weeks, I went ahead and had a D&C the next day, because I hated the thought that I had carried a dead baby around for 2 weeks already. 3 weeks later I was still in a lot of pain I said to my DH I am going to need to go to hospital, we were getting ready to go when I felt something coming I went to the toliet and my body expelled a very large mass I caught it with both my hands, it appeared to be products of conception, I really don't know why there was so much left behind, I even think maybe it was a twin that was missed???? But either way I was sick for a long time while during the 3 weeks that it took for the rest to come away and afterwards. I think you will feel so much better when the baby has gone, you are able to move on and start to try for your next pregnancy. I wish you the very best of luck at this difficult time, sometimes letting go is what is needed to move on. Hugs

[Gabi]

Three months is a long time to be waiting to miscarry.

I had a d&c after my first miscarriage (late miscarriage), and so like you I choose expectant management for my second miscarriage. I found expectant management much better emotionally and physically. I only waited three weeks though, and I was quite confident that I saw the foetus after only one week. Once I knew that I was no longer carrying a dead baby I was much, much better (in both my miscarriages).

I'm wondering what your doctor says about your expectant management? If I were you I'd be really struggling emotionally, but I'd also be very worried about the possibility of infection. It is possible that you will never completely miscarry on your own and resulting infections could significantly reduce your chances of carrying to term next time and of conceiving again. My mother had an incomplete miscarriage at 12 weeks which was not picked up until years later and she never got to 12 weeks with a baby again. Please check with your doctor (and get a second opinion) about how long you should continue managing your miscarriage.

[Sheena]

3 months is a very long time to still be waiting to miscarry, you can get a horrible infection if you do not have the pregnancy tissue etc removed.
When i had my m/c I started spotting then 4 days later m/c completly with heavy dark bleeding and large clots, very painful, but natural.
I would definitly go to the doctors, I know you dont want a d and c but it might be your only option if your body hasnt done it naturally.
Good Luck hun.