Baby shower invite. Was I rude?

[LimeSlice]

Hmm.
Don't think it is rude as such, but it very about you...
I mean, I think I probably would have been a bit more enthusiastic about HER day, about HER celebration...of course, that is with hindsight! lol

If it were me, I would send her another text, or call her, and say something like: I am sorry if I was rude in the earlier text, the date made me feel a bit emotional. But I wanted to let you know I hope you enjoy your shower and I am sorry I won't be there for you to help you celebrate your baby! Baby showers really stir some emotions in me and I don't feel comfortable bringing that dark cloud to your happy day. Can't wait to see the photos on FB, and again, I am sorry if I was a bit rude earlier. xox

I am sure if she is a good friend she understands though and perhaps just couldn't reply at the time.

[Kazbah]

I do think LS has a good point there. I generally think, for myself, that if I'm feeling that something I've done may have been rude then it probably was - at least to you. You could also try some wording like "this is a tough time of year for me, and I'd hate to bring you down - all the best for the day" and send her another message on the day like "hope today's fun for you!"

[blessedatlast]

Yeah, good point..I must admit I was a bit angry/upset that she even sent it.. People that know me, know I am bitter and twisted lol and I don't do baby showers.. If they know me well they should also know that this time of year sux for me.. Why on earth would she invite me?? I'm just being nasty cos I am angry at the situation and I would probably be having a b!tch if she didn't invite me! BTW while I am having a b!tch, I thought baby showers were only for first babies! She's on her 2nd!

Off I go under my rock now.. Hopefully for a while lol

[AnyDream]

Yeah, good point..I must admit I was a bit angry/upset that she even sent it.. People that know me, know I am bitter and twisted lol and I don't do baby showers.. If they know me well they should also know that this time of year sux for me.. Why on earth would she invite me?? I'm just being nasty cos I am angry at the situation and I would probably be having a b!tch if she didn't invite me! BTW while I am having a b!tch, I thought baby showers were only for first babies! She's on her 2nd!

Off I go under my rock now.. Hopefully for a while lol

Try not to be angry. Perhaps hidden in her invitation was a wish for you that your pain will lessen with time.