I knew when I had learned that bub had died that I wanted more answers. I wanted genetic testing to rule out any chromosomal defects and also to know bubs gender. Well after I gave birth we discovered bub was a boy and I would be totally shocked if the genetics told me any different.

Knowing that bub is a boy is very stressful! When I learned that bub had died I hope he was a girl... not because I would miss him less or love him less, but because I have this underlying fear that I just can't carry boys. Now this fear is a huge paranoia and I can't shake it

My brother (I have 3 older sisters and a younger brother) was born with a very mild case of spina bifida (a neural tube defect). When I had my first u/s at the hospital the ob pointed out that the bones in Banjo's skull had not joined properly at the back. She noted that it could be due to baby collapsing also. She noted "??encephalacele??" on the u/s request form (for if I didn't m/c)... this also is a neural tube defect. I was taking folate to help prevent any thing like this.

The Ob told me that the results for the testing (if they get the cells to grow) would take about 6 weeks... I hope I can wait that long.

Has anyone else opt for genetic testing after m/c? How long did the results take to come back?

Thanx