Thank you everyone for sharing such an emotional experience with me, it has settled some of my nerves, but I'm starting to get a bit anxious as I have to be there tomorrow at 9am. My DH is coming with me.

Yes I've already had some really insensitive comments from some people, one was from a friend that had her first baby 5 weeks ago, she asked exactly what they did in the procedure, what's up with that and a really crap one from my own mother,

Mum "oh was it a planned pg?"
Me "no"
Mum "I hope your not planning on another one then"
Me " we're not planning anything past Monday"

Now how rude and ununderstanding is that, yes I know we have 5 kids but we look after them finanically and emotionally not her, she lives 4hrs away and sees them maybe 3-4 times a year, sorry just had to get that out as I didn't tell DH as he would have been ropable.

Big to all of you and thank you for sharing your painful stories with me.