Thank you everyone for sharing such an emotional experience with me, it has settled some of my nerves, but I'm starting to get a bit anxious as I have to be there tomorrow at 9am. My DH is coming with me.
Yes I've already had some really insensitive comments from some people, one was from a friend that had her first baby 5 weeks ago, she asked exactly what they did in the procedure, what's up with that and a really crap one from my own mother,
Mum "oh was it a planned pg?"
Me "no"
Mum "I hope your not planning on another one then"
Me " we're not planning anything past Monday"
Now how rude and ununderstanding is that, yes I know we have 5 kids but we look after them finanically and emotionally not her, she lives 4hrs away and sees them maybe 3-4 times a year, sorry just had to get that out as I didn't tell DH as he would have been ropable.
Big to all of you and thank you for sharing your painful stories with me.
Oh Amanda What a horrible thing to say especially now, when you are right in the middle of dealing with losing your baby. Some people just have no idea
amanda, those sound pretty horrible comments. I found when I had mine some people said terrible things cause the just didn't know what to say and said the first thing that came into their head. but feel free to vent away here
Hi Amanda. I just saw your post. I am so very sorry for your loss.
If you are going to Logan Hospital be prepared for a long wait. When I had my DandC I had to be there by 7am but the procedure was not done until 2pm and I was home by 4pm. Take a good book.
I found the reception staff just horrible but all the other nurses and doctors were excellent. The recovery staff were very caring and friendly. They will give a sandwich and juice before you go home. Your DH and family will be able to pick you up straight from the recovery chairs and take you home.
I didn't have a lot of bleeding afterward but I did have cramping for a while.
The one thing I would add is to be prepared for really up and down emotions. My m/c was a blighted ovum and while I felt intellectually ok about it all, emotionally I was a real mess, especially the day after (I guess it's the hormones).
I know this is not what you are supposed to say but it might help to try and take solace in the babies you have - I actually found that thinking how lucky I was to have my boys and how so many women have to go home after a d&C to an empty house with no children actually helped me cope. I know it won't replace the baby you wanted but but I know you will know what I am getting at.
Just wanted to send you some warm hugs for today Amanda, my thoughts are with you and your family, I cannot imagine what you must be going through today
and a really crap one from my own mother,
to all of you and thank you for sharing your painful stories with me.
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What a horrible thing to say especially now, when you are right in the middle of dealing with losing your baby. Some people just have no idea 
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