Amanda I am so sorry I only just found this

The one thing I would add is to be prepared for really up and down emotions. My m/c was a blighted ovum and while I felt intellectually ok about it all, emotionally I was a real mess, especially the day after (I guess it's the hormones).

I know this is not what you are supposed to say but it might help to try and take solace in the babies you have - I actually found that thinking how lucky I was to have my boys and how so many women have to go home after a d&C to an empty house with no children actually helped me cope. I know it won't replace the baby you wanted but but I know you will know what I am getting at.

HTH