SJ, moreI wish i was closer so i could come barging round your house with wine and trashy magazines and real hugs.
Some more info re: waiting: with #1 i had what i thought was my normal AF for a bit (we didn't know about the baby until i lost it) - i spotted for about 2 or 3 days and then the bleeding began. Once i'd started to cramp (the day after red bleeding began) it was all over within about 8 hours, then i just bled for another 3 or 4 days, after which it got lighter and lighter and stopped 4 weeks after the initial spotting had begun. With #2 i spotted for 13 days before the bleeding got heavy and i lost the baby on day 14 then spotted until a few days short of a month from the initial spotting starting.
Remember this is all on your terms. If the waiting gets too much you CAN have the D&C, sometimes a woman's body just has problems doing it by itself, but i would say you could safely wait certainly another week if you're comfy and so long as you don't have other symptoms (fever, headache etc.).
This liminal phase of not-pregnant-but-non-not-pregnant is so so hard hun. The waiting is agony, but let me tell you, in 10 or 11 months when your precious bub is staying in past his or her EDD you will be MUCH better at waiting after this. One of the biggest fears i had even after my furst loss, was that i wouldn't be able to have a baby, but i did. And you will too SJ, you'll get your baby.
My Nana always used to say "jesus only gives crosses to people who can carry them". There might be times when it feels unbearably sad, but even if you think you can't do this, Someone knows better.
Giant hugs to you. I hope your wait is smooth and short.
Bx
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