Thanks for your thoughts Liviam.
JennaJayen - Thank you for sending that info. I am pretty sure of the dates, we did IUI on day of ovulation and I have pretty accurate cycles. BFP turned up 12dpo. I wish I could maybe think the dates were wrong, but I would very much doubt it.
I guess this whole m/c is always hard and trying and we never seem to get the answers we want when we want them.
I am banging my head up against a wall DH is not sure of the right thing to do either, but supports me 100% in which way I choose.
If I hold off until Monday for bt, I think I am putting off the inevitable. I just don't know the percentage of danger that I might be putting myself at for waiting. But at the same time, what if bubba is actually there somewhere?
thanks for listening girls. I am sure someone upstairs will look after me one way or the other.